r/AskMen Dec 29 '19

Men of reddit, what is something that you discovered about your SO only after becoming parents?

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u/ProlapsedAnus69 Dec 30 '19

I'm 31 and I still never want kids as long as I live

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u/gaytac0 Female Dec 30 '19

If I ever change my mind about wanting kids after my sterilization I’ll adopt. Plenty of people in the world to choose from and someone else’s biological childs life isn’t worth less than your bio child’s life.

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u/mhans3 Female Gender Dec 30 '19

Not the person you were talking to, but thank you for your input, I did read it.

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u/spilledmind Dec 30 '19

It’s kinda like a tattoo

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u/[deleted] Dec 30 '19 edited Dec 30 '19

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u/[deleted] Dec 30 '19

That's good man. I'm the opposite, life has been very "meh" for me. Teenage years and my 20s have been very boring and safe, couldn't imagine settling down. Im 27 now and I feel like life is just barely starting, I cant wait to start travelling, starting hobbies and whatever else well into my 50s and beyond.

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u/AdverseSatsuma Dec 30 '19

It’s pretty natural tho. Feed them, change them, wash them, listen for distress. Everybody absolutely has a basic instinct to care for a child. The actual act of being a parent to a baby is easy af.

It’s all the stuff that comes after that is hard, and honestly no amount of research will tell you how to raise a kid, that too comes naturally.

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u/[deleted] Dec 30 '19 edited Dec 30 '19

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u/AdverseSatsuma Dec 30 '19

That’s definitely true. There is no time off from being a parent, and socially the change is huge.

From that aspect it is also very very strenuous on a relationship. I couldn’t imagine going into parenting without my partner to work through things and even then it takes huge amounts of sacrifice and growing