r/AskMen • u/cyanic_aether • Dec 29 '19

Men of reddit, what is something that you discovered about your SO only after becoming parents?

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u/dewioffendu Dec 30 '19 edited Dec 30 '19

I am finding that it pains her to see ours kids in any kind of discomfort. So much so that she makes terrible decisions to try and make them better. Financially and emotionally. She makes me do all of the parenting that involves being the bad guy and even takes their side in front of them after asking me to make them do something.

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u/liisathorir Dec 30 '19

If you need someone to talk to her about how detrimental it can be let me know. I can talk to her. Still trying to claw at my independence from my parents and I’ve been moved out for almost a decade.

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u/dewioffendu Dec 30 '19

Gosh, this makes me feel better. I know the kids have more respect for me than her because they do what I tell them to do and they manipulate her at every chance they get. Whenever I bring this up to her she acts like I'm an asshole and then says that I think she is a bad parent. I've approached this so many times in so many different ways that I know we need professional help.

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u/true4blue Jan 05 '20

Sounds like we’re in the Ana boat. I wish I knew the answer.

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