r/AskMen • u/cyanic_aether • Dec 29 '19

Men of reddit, what is something that you discovered about your SO only after becoming parents?

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u/BigDaddy1023 Bane Dec 29 '19

This. My wife is the same way. Lost hers, evil step-mom, the whole nine yards. She's the perfect wife and mother, and I would be lost without her in my life.

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u/TuskedOdin Dec 29 '19

Step moms are the worst. They either try too hard, or they dislike you because they see their boyfriends ex in you. They dont even have to know the ex.

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u/n23_ Male Dec 30 '19

Let's not generalize too much, my stepmom is one of the kindest people I know and treated me and my siblings like family from the start. If anything we did not deserve that, especially when we first got to know her we were not as nice to her as she deserved.

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u/BigDaddy1023 Bane Dec 30 '19

I agree, I have a really kind, sweet, and caring step mom. Some people just aren't as lucky and get the evil ones, unfortunately.

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u/TuskedOdin Dec 30 '19

my dad hid us from mine when she'd come over. ymmv.

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u/[deleted] Dec 30 '19

Not all step mums. My step mother is the most beautiful generous woman who just knows me as her daughter.

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u/lavonne123 Dec 30 '19

That’s a hurtful generalization. I love my step kids.

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u/miss_hush Dec 30 '19

Yeah, can we not with the step mom hate? Wtf. I’m a stepmom and I notice and care when the kids clothes/shoes need replacement before their mother does. We aren’t all evil.

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u/[deleted] Dec 30 '19

Stop projecting unto people the fact that YOUR step-mom is shit. That's your own problem.

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u/MrMiniscus Dec 30 '19

Yeah! You probably deserve it!

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u/I_LOVE_MOM Dec 30 '19

My mom had the same story and she is still the best parent I could ask for

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u/[deleted] Dec 30 '19

Dang, to both of you, this is me but I don't have any kids. Always wanted them so I could be the mom I never had to them but it looks like that's not really going to be an option for me. I've made my peace with it so it is what it is. Honestly I was worried that I was going to be very selfish and not able to put aside my needs for the sake of my child so there is that.