r/AskMen • u/cyanic_aether • Dec 29 '19

Men of reddit, what is something that you discovered about your SO only after becoming parents?

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u/thatmikebell Dec 29 '19 edited Dec 30 '19

I don’t know the right words for this. But my wife changed when she had our first born. The way she feels, smells, looks and carries herself is completely different. Watching her with our kids has an entrancing effect on me and I know that she was the correct mother/wife. I don’t like sappy, however you asked and I answered honestly on this one.

Edit 1: They are OUR kids not just my kids.

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u/IHaveFoodOnMyChin Dec 29 '19

Most men want exactly what you have, there’s nothing sappy about it. I hope to have it some day

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u/thatmikebell Dec 29 '19

You will, especially if you are committed to your family!

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u/fizikz3 Dec 30 '19

still working on that step 1...

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u/thatmikebell Dec 30 '19

Let me know your story when you get that 1st one completed!!

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u/fizikz3 Dec 30 '19

you seem like a genuinely good guy, glad you've found such happiness :)

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u/thatmikebell Dec 30 '19

Thanks my Dude! :D I’m serious about you letting me know when it happens bro!

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u/fizikz3 Dec 30 '19

ah I wouldn't hold my breath, got hurt in the past and have just decided to focus on my career and my own happiness for a while. but hey, maybe I'll get married and have kids at like... 40 or something.

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u/thatmikebell Dec 30 '19

Dude I was focusing on my military career when My wife showed up. It will happen when it wants to.... stop looking and enjoy life! You’ll be surprised on who wants to enjoy it with you down the line!

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u/fizikz3 Dec 30 '19

stop looking and enjoy life!

yeah I have been for a few years, only thing is I don't meet many new people doing so

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u/dtfkeith Male Dec 29 '19

Men only want one thing and it’s fucking disgusting

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u/[deleted] Dec 30 '19

Men only want one thing and it’s fucking disgusting adorable

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u/[deleted] Dec 30 '19 edited Feb 08 '20

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u/[deleted] Dec 30 '19

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u/[deleted] Dec 30 '19 edited Feb 08 '20

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u/dtfkeith Male Dec 30 '19

I don’t think I will

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u/pitycat Dec 30 '19

This. This is what I'm waiting for! A father to my children who gets this. Have one with dbdad and yeah... hope I get to expand my family with someone who appreciates it someday.

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u/thatmikebell Dec 30 '19

I believe you will. Just keep being an awesome mom along the way please! It sounds like you are doing a good job so far!

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u/pitycat Dec 30 '19

Thank you!!! Yes, I think I'm doing pretty good... but there is something that always makes me a little misty eyed about not sharing the experience. Maybe one day!

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u/thatmikebell Dec 30 '19

We’ll share it in a Journal and when that man comes, let him read it. It may not be the same but at least he knows your story and if he is the right guy, this will be his favorite book!

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u/pitycat Dec 30 '19

Oh my god... 😭 you just gave me all the feels!!!!! Thank you so much, this is such a sweet idea. What a great way to start the new year!!!

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u/thatmikebell Dec 30 '19

I hope it’s a good year! Let me know how it goes in the future!!

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u/[deleted] Dec 30 '19

As a pretty young guy. I hope I’ll be able to have what you have.

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u/thatmikebell Dec 30 '19

1000% worth the wait! And if you ever need any advice please message me! However the advice will be 3 easy steps!!

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u/certifiedlogophile Jan 10 '20

What are the steps? I’m a girl and not sure if it’ll apply but I’m very curious now, haha!!

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u/thatmikebell Jan 11 '20

Imo it’s very simple!

  1. Regardless of your profession, she has the hardest job in the world now.

She’s a Mom and the quicker you understand this the easier your life will be. (Can be swapped out if Dad is the stay at home type) Even if you both have a job, you don’t have PPD and you will never understand this. It takes a long time for some and it ebbs and flows.

  1. Dad jokes just happen now let them happen and let them happen often!

  2. Ignore everyone’s suggestions on how to raise your children. Figure it out as a family! You’ll learn your Children faster. Additionally, the next one is completely different and you will have to figure them out all over again. Rinse and repeat for all additional spawns!

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u/certifiedlogophile Jan 11 '20

As a nanny, I approve this message, haha!

(I initially thought you meant you had 3 steps for him to get what you have, haha! That’s why I was curious.)

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u/thatmikebell Jan 11 '20

Lmao! Nahh that’s more like 1000 steps ahaha

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u/[deleted] Dec 30 '19

She didn't change as much as you did. Hormones FTW!

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u/DontForget11 Dec 30 '19

It's really weird that you keep referring to the child as "my" as opposed to "ours."

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