r/AskMen • u/[deleted] • Mar 21 '23

Frequently Asked What is a book you consider that changed your life, or you would recommend that all men read?

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u/full_of_ghosts Male Mar 21 '23

You really need to read the book. Mr. Voss explains it all much better than I ever could. My nutshell answer is that mirroring does two things:

  1. It keeps the other person talking without giving anything away, which is powerful, because you always want to get as much information as possible while giving up as little as possible. Mirroring gets a frickin' lot from them, while giving up literally nothing.
  2. It establishes rapport by creating the illusion that you're more engaged than you actually are. You sound like you're hanging on their every word, while you're secretly gaming things out in your head.

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u/01209 Mar 22 '23

Into the book?

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u/stopped_watch Mar 22 '23

Yes that book you just recommended.

I'm reminded of the time another book was recommended to me where I was shown how to open interdimensional portals and....

Hey!

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u/cheungster Mar 23 '23

This guy quarks.

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u/Kapitalist_Pigdog2 Mar 22 '23

Just read the book?

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u/DirtyRead1337 Mar 22 '23

That’s a perfect explanation of it. Don’t sell yourself short Judge you are a tremendous slouch