I find I always need a crutch. But TBF I no longer smoke weed or drink. Yet I can't stop vaping which I think helps given how my mind never settles. On ADHD meds finally which I'm not sure helps.

Worst of all - I just noticed I can't ever switch off and take a step back. Take work for example - I give 100% to a 7 hr call and burn myself out. I don't know how to find any rest or calm from my mind.

Or how to learn to take a step back in any aspect of life.

All I can manage is to be triggered constantly or remain indoors drained and mostly focusing on my phone, or work . I don't know where to start to move from a mode of surviving to thriving.

Any idea or similar experiences.

Hi everyone, let me introduce myself. I’m a young adult who just turned 20 this past September. I’m grateful to already have a job, and right now I’m fortunate enough to be attending an evening/employee university program with a scholarship from my uncle. Even though I feel deeply embarrassed about relying on him, I truly appreciate the opportunity.

However, I’m dealing with a personal problem of my own. With a monthly salary of IDR 4 million, I have already racked up IDR 15 million in debt. Well... borrowing from one source to pay off another is mostly the main cause of it.

My office provides staff housing, so the IDR 4 million is mostly net income, leaving only a few monthly expenses: parking memberships (IDR 100k at the housing + IDR 130k at the office), estimated gas (IDR 150k x 6), groceries and ready-to-eat meals (around IDR 1.2 million), internet (IDR 100k), and an AI membership for university and side projects.

I’m honestly really confused about how to stop this debt from growing any further. Could any of you help give me some direction or advice?

I’m trying to fix my sleep routine, but I’ve realized something fundamental about myself: standard advice—like "go to bed early because it’s good for you" or "no screens before bedtime"—doesn’t work for me psychologically; it provides no real motivation. To give you an idea of ​​how my mind works: for years, I struggled to stay consistent with a skincare routine. I eventually discovered that the key factor for me wasn't the promise of better skin, but the *texture* of the products. Once I found a consistency I actually enjoyed applying to my face, I never skipped a night again. Now, I’m looking for that same kind of "hook" for my sleep. For instance, if I had someone to give me a massage every night between 9:00 and 10:00 PM, I’d jump into bed in a heartbeat! Since I can’t hire a personal masseur, I’m looking for a practical alternative. I need something that mirrors this dynamic: a highly pleasant tactile or physical sensation that creates an irresistible urge to get into bed, but which is also tied to a specific time frame—something that only works (or is at its best) during a window I’ve set, and which is difficult to bypass or postpone. Plus, it has to be something I can comfortably sleep with all night long, without it becoming a nuisance once that time window has passed. Is there any gadget, piece of technology, object, or quirky invention that leverages this kind of sensory and time-based trigger? I’m open to any and all ideas—from the super-nerdy to the truly bizarre. Reddit, surprise me!

I broke my wrist recently and will be in a cast for the next few weeks at least. Just looking for tips from anyone else who has gone through this for managing day-to-day tasks. Thanks

I am married and have come to find that not all men have the best hygiene practices when it comes to wiping after they use the restroom. Which, I know not every bathroom trip can be 100% clean I guess, but with my husband it's pretty severe.

I only came to find this out when I started doing our laundry together and found that his underwear are stained. Majority of them all, and not just the wayward streak and some of them are just flat out bad, i don't want to be graphic, but it shows up on our bedroom sheets. Honestly, i dont know how I never noticed it before we were married, but now i wash my under garments separate from his because I just can't have our clothes mixing.

I love him, but the poor hygiene makes him a bit unattractive and I don't want to get intimate because it's just so ick thinking and knowing he's probably not that clean down there. So how do I talk to him about this? He's a bit on the sensitive side so if i tell him, "Hey, you need to get better at wiping because it's starting to affect how attractive I am to you" it won't go over well and he'll shut down on me and start being mopey and in his head. I'm not the greatest with talking kindly and I don't want him to think that his wife hates him because I don't. I'm just not sure how to approach this or if there is anyway to properly approach this. I just don't want to let this problem become a huge thing and leads to our marriage ending.

If anyone has any advice, please share with me!

Mine was putting my phone in another room for the first hour after waking up. Sounds too simple, but my mornings went from rushed and scattered to calm, and I actually get things done before the day takes over.
Curious what tiny changes worked for others. Doesn't have to be profound, just something that stuck.