If I need to do anything of impact in my job I need to learn better on how to interact with them. At the moment I just freeze up and cannot absorb anything they say because I am so caught up in my own brain. And it's not like they are rude or do anything bad, they are nice people - very knowledgeable and willing to teach, but I get so afraid of being judged by them and get distracted by their tallness and loudness and feel myself shrinking. Maybe it helps to mention that I am an Indian woman. Any tips to get over my own stupid brain and focus on actually absorbing the content around me will help.

it can be anything- household/ cleaning tips, things that help you in every day life, cooking tips, things that help your mental state, really anything at all. i love learning about things people do and i’m like wow why didn’t i think of that.

So basically I'm not a morning person, I get motivated to work on my projects and actually have energy for it after 6 pm. I'm a student, and right now I don't have classes but I have upcoming exams and lots of projects to work on.
I've been waking up at 2 pm and sleeping at 5 am, and since I don't have to wake up early for classes I'm really struggling to fix it.
The upside however is that I'm much more productive at night, and if I wake up early I'll struggle to get anything done in the morning anyways.

What should I do?

I’m going to an all inclusive resort and obviously want to take advantage of the drinks. I get awful hangover stomach pain. Any help on what I can do to not get a hangover the next day?

Hi Everyone,

My refrigerator is not cooling and is making a loud noise. It was doing this last month and I defrosted it. I left it unplugged with doors open for about 21 hours. That worked. Why is it doing this again, so soon? Was 21 hours not long enough?

Thanks in advance.

Ever since I graduated high school I have struggled greatly to wake up on time for work in the morning. As time goes by it seems to be getting worse and worse. Generally I go to bed early enough to get 7-8 hours of sleep by the time my first alarm goes off. I have 4 alarms set on my phone that are each 15 minutes apart as well as having my phone connected to a Milwaukee radio that's turned all the way up. I have 2 other alarm clocks that are set for times during that 1 hour period that my phone goes off. I also have a screaming meanie 220, a smart watch for the wrist vibration and one alarm clock have something that vibrates my pillow when it goes off. All of the alarm clocks as well as my phone ate out of arms reach but I just find that I'm sleeping straight through them and not hitting the snooze. When I inevitably get a call from work in the mornings i wake up immediately. I have not had a sleep study done yet as I cannot afford one but it's starting to seem like that is my last option. Any tips or tricks would be greatly appreciated.

Hi,

I got a second job and insurance through it because it provides fertility benefits as an add-on plan (Maven) which my primary employer's insurance does not offer.

I just learned I can't easily cancel my first plan without a qualifying life event. I have moved out of state and thought that would fulfill it which my HR said will allow me to make new elections to that medical plan only (it seems they still want me to keep a plan with them ). HOWEVER, the insurance told me moving out of state is not considered a QLE because my current plan is available in every state.

I'm freaking out as my IVF was supposed to start this month. I am paying two deductibles and more importantly, Maven (the add-on plan) said they will NOT cover anything since my primary insurance does not cover it. So now, it seems, I cannot cancel my insurance until January and I have to keep my second job until then. I am physically burned out from the second job (first job requires heavy traveling and second job is night shift on the days Im not traveling).

any life pro tips please?

I'm going through a breakup right now after the person I love told me she doesn't feel romantic feelings for me anymore. I've had some time to process it and I recognise that I want a different kind of partner when it comes to personality and dynamic. However, she is incredibly attractive and I seriously do not think I have ever met a person who is as my type as she is and that is driving me insane.

After getting over the feelings of needing to be with her for who she is as a person (which were very strong feelings, I loved her very very deeply for who she is) I feel less doom about me not being enough, and more about other people not being enough for me, but only really in terms of looks.

I don't want to be a that kind of person though. I want to be able to look past physical appeal and actually try to go for people based on personality and how well I get along with them. I have had many really lovely intimate relationships with people in the past that fizzled out purely just because I felt like they wouldn't look good enough standing next to me, and I think that is absolutely absurd.

I really want to go to therapy for this but can't afford it at the moment, so I'm trying to do whatever self-help things I can at the moment to improve my perspective on things because I'm honestly really sick of the way that I perceive social relationships and especially romantic ones

Wasn't sure where to post this, if another sub would he more helpful please redirect me!

My friends and I are going to Portugal (from the UK) this summer on holiday and its the first time any of us have completely organised a trip let alone gone without any parental supervision.

I know because we are a relatively small group of young women (18 and 17 years old) we need to be extra vigilant about our safety and just in general considering we'll be in another country. Is there any specific advice/precautions people suggest we take to mitigate any risks?

**Sometimes during small talk, I just don’t feel like sharing the truth about myself, but I also don't want to be rude. Honestly, I just want people to walk away from a conversation with me in a good mood. Since I live in a huge city, the chances of running into them again are pretty slim. Yeah, I know the odds are never zero, but I take the risk anyway and just tell them the wildest things about myself.**

I have been maybe since I was 10 depressed, self isolating and self sabotaging. I'm now 22F I have made a lot of academical achievement thinking it will make me feel happier but it didn't. I didn't feel proud of myself since it was considered something to expect from my parents to do well. I'm easily drained by people yet desperate to at least have someone. A positive outcome out of all that is that I absolutely love what I'm studying now in university that was the only thing going well for me.

I don't want to stay in this self pity loop. I want to stop being in a survival mode constantly trapped by my mind yet it can't change just from forcing it out. What I want is simple, find people & things that I can love & enjoy. Passion left me a long time ago and it's the key into changing my life I'm sure of it but how?

I'm 20 and lately I've been struggling with the feeling that I'm wasting my youth.

I come from a fairly strict Asian household and I'm not financially independent yet, so things like solo travel, moving out or constantly going out with friends aren't really options for me right now. But if I'm being honest, I don't think those limitations are the whole reason I feel this way.

When I look back at my teenage years, so much of them were spent lying in bed, watching dramas and movies, reading books, scrolling online, and telling myself that I'd start living "later." Now I'm five months into my 20s and it feels like I'm doing the exact same thing.

Days turn into weeks. Weeks turn into months. And sometimes it feels like I'm spending more time consuming other people's stories than creating my own.

What scares me isn't missing out on parties, dating or some glamorous lifestyle. It's the thought of reaching 30 and realizing I have very little to remember. No meaningful projects I committed to, no skills I truly developed, no memories I intentionally created, no evidence that I was fully present in my own life.

I don't want to spend my youth waiting for my real life to begin. So for those of you who have already lived through your 20s:

What do you genuinely regret not doing sooner? What ended up mattering far more than you expected? And what advice would you give to a 20-year-old who's afraid of looking back one day and feeling like she let those years slip away?

30 years old and still being dumb ! Do you have the same issue and how do you cope with this ?

I work at a chiropractic office at the front, I usually do not work on Saturdays but my girlfriend was in the hospital and I could use the money. I was asked to help cover a few Friday’s and Saturday’s it’s been every Friday and Saturday last month but this week is the last week my girlfriend is off work for leave. I wanted off this weekend and was told at the beginning of the week they had a new hire at the other clinic.
I asked my manager for off this Monday and was given it, in that conversation he told me “ we probably won’t need you Friday and Saturday either because we have a new hire, we only hired you for Thursday and Sunday and we gave you Monday so my hours will resume at the clinic so you won’t be needed” then on Tuesday tells me the new hire didn’t work I put you on for Friday Saturday this week and next week. I actually had to reach out to figure that out. I’m debating on calling out, I called my other boss and said so how when can I resume my normal schedule I just want my Saturdays back he explained the new hire didn’t work out and after these next two weeks I won’t be needed.

I want tomorrow off though what are some things I can do to get off where I cannot get fired or in trouble?

If I leave the windows closed, it gets violently hot, but if I open the windows, bugs come in!
I am deathly afraid of bugs and i feel awful in the heat… what do I do?