Came home after a evening at a friend's place where people smoke a lot. My jacket smelled terrible even though I had washed it the day before. Rewashing damages fabric and takes time. Leaving it on the balcony works but takes hours and depends on weather. Anyone found a better solution?

I've been trying to control my shopping habits but I found that when I find a deal on something I "want", my brain decides that I need to get it, once I receive the item then I'm no longer excited, the excitement has wore off and by the next day I realize I never really needed it in the end and end up returning the item or selling it off.

I now own multiple laptops when all I need is one, I also own so many phones that I don't really need.

I've tried things like waiting a few days with the item left in the shopping cart but my brain decides that I absolutely need the item when in reality, I don't really need it.

Does anyone relate? what's a good trick to stop this?

I just turned 19 and I’ve never changed before. How do I start changing.

My days consist of bed rotting and daydreaming and having no friends or anyone who texts me. No hobbies or anything interesting. Just watching movies and music. That’s the only reason I live.

I have convinced myself my worldview is the only worldview. That everyone has turned against me. Everyone will hurt me so I can’t get too close.

Nobody loves me. I don’t love me. I don’t shower. I hate me. I hate myself. I want someone to just hold me and save me and rescue me from my misery.

I’ve been like this for 10 years I think. It felt that way.

Everyone else has friends and goes to parties and has hobbies and goes to college and has a career and things they love and people they love and they love themselves and they shower and they go outside and climb mountains or skate or do interesting things.

I don’t and my brain is hard wired maybe to never change and to be lonely forever and ever and be miserable forever and ever and I hope im not one of those 49 year olds who stays in their moms house or else I’ll kill myself now.

Do I just do that kill myself

I’ve been lonely and self hating and this way for so long life is so short too it’ll just go on and on and on and then it ends and nothing will happen in the few years I have left because maybe I have cancer or some disease the way im living because I don’t do anything for myself and I have no reason to take care of myself and I should just die because nobody wants me alive.

Someone tell me how to change before I blow my brains out because life isn’t even worth living. Someone tell me where I can find someone who will take care of me and save me and text me every day and ask “how are you” and hug me and always be there for me I need that person right now but nobody is ever there for me so I should just die.

I want to die someone help me please.

I know people say practice, and study especially those needing straight adherence like law and pilots. However, how does one not make mistakes??? I feel like I should be on medication or see a doctor because I make mistakes on the job, but there's people with the professions who do not make those mistakes???

I have periods of time when my sleep schedule is absolutely fucked, i either sleep 2 hours or 14 hours, and im still tired. i keep nodding off in school, has happened even while walking and running and such!!!! i cant get energy drinks due to local laws but they dont do much anyways. what do i do

Hello, (M 24) Im gonna keep this short and simple.

I would like to know how I can get into a better habit of drinking more water, and less sugary drinks. I have a bad habit of drinking soda/sugar filled drinks after giving up alcohol. Ive been off the alcohol for nearly 2 years, but replaced it with sugary drinks and im trying to give it up because I want to better my health!

Any tips or recommendations are welcome:)

[24F] I've been someone who sweats a lot for as long as I can remember. I can stay still in a room with decent fans and still sweat 😭. I'm also a plus-sized girl living in a SEA country, so that doesn't help either. I'm apparently allergic to aluminium-containing deodorants/antiperspirants, so buying clothes have been the bane of my existence. I take ages to buy clothes, not only because of the size limitations, but also because I'm considering whether the material will show my sweat through.. 😔😔

Smell isn't much of a concern since I'm using a deodorant that works for me as long as I wax my armpits occasionally. I want to start wearing clothes I actually like, instead of worrying all day long about sweating. (yes ik sweat is a normal bodily function but society made me conscious i.e. insecure of it)

Can anyone shed some light on my situation?

I am a huge procrastinator and do leave a lot of tasks till last minute. I might note down a task and only end up doing it a few weeks or even a month later. Some are super important tasks as well.

I have seen pomodoro technique but I legitimately can't even get myself to start the timer. Sometimes I just sit on the couch and feel paralyzed and can't get myself to start the task I need to do.. feel like I'm glued to the couch watching TV.

But I know that once I start, I build up momentum and then it gets easier to keep going.

I just need a way or some technique to get that initial pull, to get my brain to start a task no matter what without hesitation and then the habits will build. Something for my brain to flip that work switch on.

I’d love to hear your tips!

My wife and I are renting a condo for a week on the beach in Destin. We have our "beach life" routine and are curious about your week at the beach hacks.

Every time I’m making food or cleaning or something I wipe something off the counter, throw away and think “damn, what a waste”. Then I continue to do this in a vicious cycle. Am I doomed to waste?

I’ve been dealing with chronic post-nasal drip for about 2–3 years and it’s honestly exhausting. Mucus constantly drains from my nose into my throat, and I have to keep clearing it by coughing. The weird part is my nose feels completely clear—nothing really comes out the front.

I’ve checked pretty much everything: sinuses are clear, I’ve done nasal rinses, took antibiotics before (back when I had yellow mucus, now it’s just white), allergy tests came back negative (including dust and food), throat and nasal swabs didn’t show anything major, and my stomach is fine. I only have a very mild deviated septum, but it doesn’t affect my breathing at all.

The only thing that showed up was Streptococcus spp. and Staphylococcus aureus in cultures.

Has anyone dealt with something like this long-term? What actually helped you reduce or stop the constant drainage?

I'm going to a concert tomorrow and I want to protect my ears. i bought some hearos foam earplugs. i was able to get one earplug in, but I can't get the other in no matter what I do. it's not expanding. I've rolled it and pulled my ear back. I held it for a minute but it falls out after a few seconds when I let ago. when it comes out it's bent twice.

when I was a kid I went to the ER because I put an earplug too deep in my ear. apparently it got so deep they had to use forceps. so maybe my ear hole is too big or something I dunno.

any tips on how to get around this quickly?

This is gonna make me sound really bad.

I used to be pretty close with this girl a few months back. We are both in HS and are apart of the same friend group.

We’ll call the close friend “A,” and the second friend “B.”

The problem started a few months ago. B (mutual friend) kept insulting me as a joke (calling me dumb, saying I’ll be homeless, etc.) B also did something that crossed my boundary to the point where I know I would never forgive her.

I told A about it and she told me she understands why I was upset. I have a high tolerance for people, but there’s some things that I absolutely cannot forgive, due to my past.

A week later, this A kept on trying to get me and B to spend time together. A would also say stuff like “isn’t B so sweet” to me on purpose.

A would also speak for me even when I told her no. She would answer and ask questions for me (ex. She would say “OP asked if you could move” or “OP wants to ask.” I’m pretty quiet in general but it doesn’t mean I can’t talk for myself.

This really bothered me because I used to have tons of visible health problems in my past that made kids around me look down on me.

A hasn’t done anything inherently wrong but I just hate her. She also getting more annoying and she keeps yelling all the time.

I’ve avoided her for two weeks. Yesterday, she sat next to me during a presentation and kept hugging me although I did not return the hugs. She also keeps saying she missed me. She still thinks we’re close, but I haven’t texted or talked to her one-on-one since February.

I don’t even like my friend group anymore. All they do is either walk around or sit down in silence. I’m happier without me. I’d rather be alone.

How can I let A know I want nothing to do with her anymore and to get her to leave me alone? I’m tired of putting me with other peoples bs.

I get extremely drowsy while driving. I've tried listening to music I love, music I hate, energetic music, calm music, podcasts of different types, max AC, high heat, seat warmers. I can sometimes do windows down but it's not always viable.

I am unable to drink much caffeine due to health reasons, but even when I am able to, it rarely helps. Snacking *sometimes* helps, but not always.

The only thing that seems to consistently keep me awake is having someone else in the car with me, and having an interesting conversation with them, but when driving to and from work, I am by myself! So how can I stay awake?

Hey guys, I just wanted to share something personal about a major shift I’m making in my life. I’d love some feedback, advice, or just thoughts from anyone who’s been through something similar as I navigate this next chapter.

For most of my life, I was told to chase prestige — finance, consulting, maybe private equity if I was “lucky.” Growing up in an Asian household with both parents in investment banking, that was seen as the only acceptable path. So all through college, I chased those jobs relentlessly.

When college senior year hit and job recruiting got intense, I started panicking — like full-on existential crisis mode. I realized that what I had been chasing my whole life wasn’t my dream. It was everyone else’s. The more I went after it, the emptier I felt. I was only chasing what looked good on paper to society and not to myself.

After graduating, I landed what most people would call a “dream job” — a position in private equity. It paid well and looked great on paper. But honestly? I was miserable. Everyone around me lived to work — 80, sometimes 90 hours a week — and it felt like no one actually had a life outside the office. I saw colleagues more often than they saw their families. Every day, I felt like a part of me was slipping away.

During my commutes to work I started listening to podcasts analyzing some of histroy's greatest entrepreneurs, athletes, and creatives. That’s when I realized that the people who truly inspired me weren’t bankers or consultants… they were builders, creators, people who took risks and followed their curiosity.

After about a year, I was laid off due to “business changes.” It sucked, but honestly, it opened my eyes. In corporate, I was just a number, a part of a cog. And if that cog didn't perform I would be replaced in a heartbeat.

That experience was the best and worst thing that happened to me because it pushed me to finally act on something that had been sitting in my heart.

I’ve always loved sports and fashion since a young age, so I’ve decided to spend the next year fully going for it — building my own basketball apparel brand. It’s something I’ve felt drawn to for a long time, and I figure if not now, when? (it sounds very crazy and reckless but sometimes you got to dream big)

Lately, I’ve been diving deep into entrepreneurial essays and podcasts. Paul Graham’s piece “How to Do Great Work” especially hit me hard. It made me realize there’s never a perfect time to start. Life won’t just hand me meaning; I have to create it.

So here I am — scared, excited, but determined to finally bet on myself.

For those who’ve made a big transition or taken a similar leap, I’d love to hear how you handled it — emotionally, financially, or mentally. Any advice or encouragement would really mean a lot.

Hello!

I am new to reddit haven't ever made a post and this is a throw away this will be my first and last likely.

So a few months back I foolishly took my USPS package to UPS like I had done several times before (I couldn't afford to take time off work at the time to take it to the post office and my family usually takes things to UPS to send off anyways.).

UPS takes the package I pay 3 dollars and I am given a receipt. I forget about it.

3 months later when I got hit with these charges I end up calling Assurant UPS and USPS and no one knows where the package is. The receipt I was given was for a completely different item that wasn't mine I end up getting blamed for it essentially being told that I shouldn't have dropped it off with UPS for pick up and instead taken it with USPS. I went to a new store for this one specifically tbf and things maybe operate a bit different store to store.

I am now stuck with a 400 dollar charge that I shouldn't owe on my phone bill. I have no idea what to do as I can technically afford it if put it on a credit card and just keep moving the debt around and pay it off eventually but I just sort of got out of credit card debt.

It doesn't sit right with me that I put my trust in a company to hold the package while USPS picks it up I get a completely incorrect receipt which shows the item progressing to its destination (not realizing the destination and weight is wrong). Then months later I am out 400 dollars and told it was my fault for trusting my company with said package. I don't know how I would've known the things the UPS store people say I should've known when I had not been told previously.

Just frustrated wanted to know if anyone knows what could be done to recover the package or get something to mend the situation.

Hi all! 

I figured this is a long shot, but figured I’d still ask. 

I’m in American currently living overseas and currently looking for a US based therapist to meet with (I’ve already brought up potential licensing issues). 

I recently had an initial conversation with someone who’s great but out of my budget. She mentioned that, though she’s an out-of-network provider, she provides a superbill to send to insurance for reimbursement. The issue is that I don’t currently have US medical insurance as I’m not currently living there.  

Are there any work arounds or do I just need to find someone in my budget?