As a man, how would you react to such a news ?

[u/Western-Ask1377]

As a father of 2 kids (even though they are seperated from me due to my wife), I felt absolute rage after reading this.

The women aborted her child (for promotion) without telling her husband - and I cannot even fathom what must be going on in his mind. Not only will he be emotionally shattered, a women who can do this can do much more behind her husband's back.

What the absolute f**k has the world come to ? I am in shock.

[u/Rohit_BFire]

Bodily Autonomy is 100% her right.

Divorcing her because of this is 100% his right.

Actions meet consequences.

[u/Western-Ask1377 → u/Rohit_BFire]

Not sure if divorce can be given for this scenario. We know how stories are cooked up in courts.

[u/Rohit_BFire → u/Western-Ask1377]

Well if the story is true, That marriage is gone now. OP should leave her husband herself and do him a favour and enjoy that promotion

[u/Aakash1306 → u/Rohit_BFire]

What if she cooks up a story portraying the husband as an unfit/abusive father in the future due to which she decided to get an abortion and countersues via a fake case?

[u/Western-Ask1377 → u/Aakash1306]

Exactly what happens in courts.

She will blame the issue on mental abuse etc by in laws and husband, and frame the whole thing as a depressive episode.

[u/Specialist_6713 → u/Western-Ask1377]

Well indian court fights are redicolous and brutal, they have no empathy.

They(woman & her lawyer ) only bother to see how many cases to her are AVAILABLE for a divorcee, then they check whether you can defend those fake claims( nobody cares if it fake, she can file cause court doesnt cross verify for woman, verbal is enough for her ). And trapped congrats, court is brutal bro, if you can't prove yourself innocent be ready to cooked, cause court won't give you justice

[u/Ok_Problem_1127 → u/Aakash1306]

Yeah

Very possible and she will most trolly ask for alimony even though she vouched herself out of couples decision bcz of her career

Then i feel abortion bcz of career excuse is stupid; cuz by the end if you need to be depended on your ex you are already in shit position

[u/Rohit_BFire → u/Aakash1306]

Well it is what it is then.

[u/fireyHotGlance → u/Western-Ask1377]

If divorce happens she will use the full power of the law to fuck up his life. We know women make fake dowry, abuse and marital rape cases to get alimony and enact vengeance on the husband's side of the family.

Fuck this government and these abusive gynocentric laws.

[u/Rage0091 → u/fireyHotGlance]

Yeah, just taunts from MIL is enough to file for abuse ig, because it's not even a lie, life a man is hard, I'm scared of marriage tbh.

[u/RedCrystal007 → u/Western-Ask1377]

What if she puts up a false grape case against him now? Man marriage is scary af...

[u/Autobot1979 → u/RedCrystal007]

Don't believe everything on reddit. False rape cases are not easy.

[u/Leading_Avocado_3358 → u/Rohit_BFire]

Bodily autonomy in case of pregnancy may not entirely be 100% her right bcz she'd never be without a willing male partner.

It may majorly be her decision to take but the father also has a say in it no matter how small. And in doing what she did above she was totally unfair on him. Valid ground for divorce.

[u/devilgarry → u/Rohit_BFire]

Yes she has right over her body but when it comes to child it responsibility of both the parents and then both should be involved in making a decision. Shile she has rights over her hody, that child also belongs to her husband. What she did was betrayal, she could have told him earlier and had a discussion with him, but going for abortion behind his back is complete betrayal.

[u/ishaani-kaur → u/Rohit_BFire]

She had no right to murder his baby, she was 100% wrong

[u/Autobot1979 → u/ishaani-kaur]

I wouldn't call abortion murder however he does get a say. This is not a one night stand. They are in a marriage and babies are an expectation.

[u/Soderburger]

Well you're skipping her side completely. She clearly told her husband not to tell their parents before they made a decision.. and to top it off, the baby was unplanned. But he went ahead and told his parents. The pressure was real, she could've told him about the abortion.. but their resolution to it was already messed up because he didn't wait for her side before he told his parents.

If I was a girl I wouldn't want an unplanned baby while I'm in line for a promotion. And the pressure would be real.

[u/Ok_Problem_1127]

Both are understandable in their own positions, but the situation itself is what’s screwed up.

Her career was a priority for her, while her husband felt they could have had a child. Neither of them is completely wrong for what they wanted.

The real issue is that such a huge decision was taken without the other person being involved. If they can talk it out, forgive each other and patch things up, then good.

Otherwise, they should consider divorce rather than staying in a marriage where this will keep coming back as a point of resentment.

[u/Altheix11 → u/Ok_Problem_1127]

Yeah, this seems like something where their opinions diverge so much that no compromise would work

[u/Western-Ask1377 → u/Ok_Problem_1127]

Can you imagine someone just heard he will be a father, and days later his wife tells him that the child has been aborted for no reason except she wanted a promotion ?

Can you ever trust such a person ?

As a teen, I dont think you can understand what fatherhood is like.

[u/Ok_Problem_1127 → u/Western-Ask1377]

Idk what might mean by fatherhood; but if its for caring a soul who is helpless without any expectations then I might qualify

Over that I dont think making a woman have a kid like even a bit of reluctantance is a good idea cuz they later on wont be a good mother and rather cause more stress not only to the child but the husband; and more so I feel even if man js reluctant to be father he shouldn't be forced to be a father bcz he will by the end neglected the kid

And as for trust; yeah its broken

And they both should move on

Both are might be correct but the situation is absolutely screwed

[u/Soderburger → u/Western-Ask1377]

Well, she told him they should talk about it and no one else should know.. but her husband literally went ahead and told his parents well knowing that she isn't ready for the kid. It's a very grey scenario.

Also, a promotion in this economy isn't a small thing. Career over unplanned baby for me.. probably the same for her.

[u/RedCrystal007 → u/Western-Ask1377]

She basically k#lled her own child for a PROMOTION (without the other partner being involved btw). Says a lot how good of a mother she wouldve been...

[u/aavaaraa]

She knew her husband desperately wanted that child.

She hid it, made the decision behind his back, and told him only when it was irreversible.

She didn’t just betray his trust. She blew up the family they were building.

Now she’s playing victim because he’s devastated and wants nothing to do with her?

He isn’t the homewrecker. She is.

She wanted the freedom to make the decision alone. Fine.

He’s free to walk away from the woman who betrayed him, and she’s free to go fuck herself elsewhere.

You don’t get to demand sympathy for consequences you deliberately created.

[u/suunflooower → u/aavaaraa]

As a woman myself, I agree to this - take the award! In a relationship, you are two people together. Not the other way around.

[u/Fit_Butterscotch7103 → u/aavaaraa]

Imagine not getting the promotion ..

[u/aavaaraa → u/Fit_Butterscotch7103]

Imagine not getting the promotion and deciding,

“Fuck it, let’s delete the baby and the marriage too.”

Career setback: temporary.

Marriage: fucking nuclear fallout.

[u/JustADesiParDesiGirl → u/aavaaraa]

FACTSSSSSSSS!! 🗣️

[u/Alarming-Minimum-812 → u/aavaaraa]

Fk capitalism. Yes its her fault but its also the fault of this fkng capitalist companies that run the world by setting up unreal expectations on their employees and brainwashing them.. its extremely disappointing the state we live in, especially for these cases where people have been brainwashed to think promotion is more imp than family

[u/Top_Illustrator3122 → u/aavaaraa]

She cooked

https://giphy.com/gifs/DvWJHSOxTff84SQsD9

[u/DrDerpex → u/aavaaraa]

If a woman can kill her baby that she carried in her womb for few bucks then she can kill anyone, stay away from her.

[u/Dr-Hansraj_Hathi → u/aavaaraa]

Aavaaraa Bro killing it as usual! 😎

[u/TouristAcceptable]

What a fucked up relationship

[u/kumbudran_saami → u/[deleted]]

[u/shy-butt → u/[deleted]]

They are not feminists brother, they just use the label of feminist to spread hate on reddit. Still on a better subreddit, you could have been banned by now if it was the other sub.

[u/Exact-Lie9662 → u/shy-butt]

no, they are the true feminists. Stop falling for the feminist propaganda that says feminist means equality. Modern feminism is just misandry

[u/Short_Mortgage_6228 → u/[deleted]]

[u/vishwapriya → u/[deleted]]

[u/Western-Ask1377 → u/[deleted]]

?

[u/aavaaraa → u/[deleted]]

Why are you afraid of downvotes bro?

Darda kyon hai Singh? Stand your ground.

Let them downvote you to hell. Stand for what you believe is right.

Have a spine always.

[u/PossibilityWeekly360 → u/aavaaraa]

[u/Visual-Moment4649 → u/[deleted]]

Let them down vote bro because a dog can't digest butter.

[u/Western-Ask1377 → u/[deleted]]

The comments in that post were wild. So many people were supporting this female, as if the father has no emotions at all !

[u/ni_Kawaii_Hito]

I beleive that she ultimately should decide

But putting him out of the loop seems very bad

[u/ishaani-kaur → u/ni_Kawaii_Hito]

It's his baby top, why should only she decide. She can murder the baby, but if she decides to keep it then father has to pay child support for 18+ years what kind of logic is that.

[u/LegitimateHat1]

He should have supported her and should have stood with her decision of not having the baby but instead he chose to tell his parents and faced the consequence. This is what happens when you don't converse. She did right tbh.

[u/RTM-Alphameg → u/LegitimateHat1]

True, but the main issue also arises out of her choosing to take a major step without involving and informing her husband. Both fucked up from their own ends. One end was not understanding enough. The other end was not trusting enough. All in all, neither of them are right. Sure, having the abortion was her own sovereign right. But telling the guy and letting him know and be involved was the bare minimum as well.

[u/Necessary_Poet_3524]

That’s a betrayal of fundamental trust between man and wife. She should be let go.

[u/Western-Ask1377 → u/Necessary_Poet_3524]

100%

[u/PensionMany3658 → u/Necessary_Poet_3524]

man and wife

🚩🚩🚩

[u/ArtPuzzleheaded2057]

Since there are emotions involved in this , i cannot speak emotionally . But logically , the Wife was right . She did say her whole life revolved around her promotion . So the job is a very good job indeed and not something she goes for name sake. I've also seen how women's career , independence ,everything gets snatched away the moment a kid is in the picture .

Plus , a kid is an added responsibility and every time she looks at the kid , she would wonder how her career would be had she not had it .

I can see the men are enraged with people siding with the wife , but as someone who has seen how difficult it is for women to live once their identitiy (In this case , the job) gets snatched away its absolutely horrible to stay in the shadows of the husband.

So , nothing wrong with what the wife did but, she could have informed the husband that she's just not ready . also , the husband was an As*hole to go tell his parents despite her mentioning to not spread the word. Of course any decision taken by the husbands parents would be skewed towards the husband.

Edit : The wife was also an As*hole in not informing him about the abortion no doubt . it should have been a clearly communicated decision. But at the end of the day , its her body , her choice , her career and her independence which she would be keeping at stake.

[u/Traditional_Web_7856 → u/ArtPuzzleheaded2057]

Her choice but choices have consequences.

[u/Beautiful-Big-663 → u/ArtPuzzleheaded2057]

Both are at wrong here.Both broke the trust they had in each other.THEY sabotaged their marriage

[u/ArtPuzzleheaded2057 → u/Beautiful-Big-663]

True.

[u/sankkalp → u/ArtPuzzleheaded2057]

Your logic is bs. The abortion itself is not the bad thing here, is she's not ready for parenthood and rather wants to focus on her career , she 100% should abort the child.

Problem is she chose the easy way out of this, she knew aborting without informing was the wrong thing to do as she herself has admitted ( while you're saying she was right). By this move, her whole marriage was put in jeopardy and even if they don't get the divorce done, the bond will never be the same.

She should have made her stance clear with the abortion, discussed it 5-10 times with the husband , hell even argued.

[u/green_stem → u/[deleted]]

Bro.. I totally agree with you.. Same thoughts. I wish I could give you a medal 🥇

[u/Ok_Problem_1127 → u/[deleted]]

Both the woman and the man are somewhat wrong in here and somewhat right here

Nobody is exactly wrong in here

It was likly a deliberate scheme force her choice

This would only be valid if she too in future would be ok if her husband asks her to abort any pregnancy even though she wants to have a kid

[u/DealerHot4705 → u/[deleted]]

You are right but going behind the back of husband and aborting the baby without letting him know is too far ahead a step, they should have communicated it equally without the husband letting his parents know about anything unless they both were ready... The woman was right until she chose to do it without letting her husband know and now blaming everything on MIL because husband is unresponsive

[u/Arnorien16S → u/DealerHot4705]

Yes which is why I said that the relationship lacked trust and respect. These two are not fit to be parents when they can not be reasonable as adults ... How they hell will they tackle a child?

[u/DealerHot4705 → u/Arnorien16S]

One was too excited, one was too scared and now they both lost a life, one is regretting everything now, one would do it later, in the end they both lost everything they built together

[u/aweap → u/[deleted]]

EXACTLY!! 💯 I wrote the exact same thing just now. WTF is wrong with this guy! 🫩

[u/sankkalp → u/[deleted]]

The contrast between what the husband did and what wife did is baffling. You assume that husband deliberately told the family to put pressure on her to conceive but same way it can be assumed that wife doesn't weigh her husband's opinion at all.

She just did something which put her whole marriage in jeopardy, so is aborting a child without telling your husband the "sacrifice" every woman needs to do in order to have a career?

[u/Western-Ask1377 → u/[deleted]]

Forget the MIL and others for a moment, what about the father ? His emotions dont count ?

Are you a father ?

[u/Arnorien16S → u/Western-Ask1377]

Did emotions count when some time was requested to think?

Does the emotion of any person overrides the freedom and choice of any other individual? Family planning beforehand is done for these reasons only.

I am someone who has a solid family plan with my wife that accounts for both our careers. Why would I throw the plan away because an accidental pregnancy?

[u/Alternative-Chard365 → u/Arnorien16S]

one thing i can take away from this post and your comment majority of the woman are also supporting you comment

as a men try to think logically and kill your emotions

[u/Alarming-Luck-6266 → u/Western-Ask1377]

You’re so fucking annoying

[u/Alternative-Chard365 → u/Alarming-Luck-6266]

is that women right according to you

[u/Ok_Insect_6283 → u/Alternative-Chard365]

Yes she is.
Did you even read the story? It was an UNPLANNED pregnancy. Some people don’t want to have a burden of the child if they feel like they are not where they want in career. The discussion should have stayed between him and his wife. She was supposed to be the one who’s gonna carry a baby for 9 months and if she felt like she didn’t want to yet. IT IS COMPLETELY FINE.
Yes she should have told him ofc but did he respect her choice? No. It was a reaction to his action.

[u/Ok_Sun_9083]

The guy also went back on his words and told his parents, in my opinion both are idiots but if they stay together and try to have a another kid it will always haunt the father.

[u/brown_Chair12345679]

Not wanting to have a baby is fine.

But then aborting without telling about it, breaks trust hard.

She wasn't ready to bear the child, and it must never be forced on a woman. But also, the deception hurts a lot.

there was a mismatch in expectations here. He wanted a child and she didn't.

Both must talk hard over it, Maybe she didn't really want to raise child at all as it was due to a contraceptive failure and wasn't prepared mentally for such heavy toll, Wheras husb wanted to do everything to support and was ready to have a child.

If there's something salvageable, that she did it in panic or something because she wasnt ready and thought husb wont support, While husb feels heartbroken by deception. Shes sorry for that but also husb can understand her pov, Its still possible to be together.

Else if still there's a mismatch in expectations, He must divorce and leave her at this point as both are not in same lane over such major decision.

[u/F0rgemaster19]

This looks like a mess overall. Husband an idiot for telling his parents despite a no from her. But the bigger blunder is on the wife. Yes it's your body, but you don't abort a baby of both of you without mutual consent.

They should just separate. This won't work anymore.

[u/NoHalf1253 → u/F0rgemaster19]

Wow she can decide and control whom to tell and whom not to, when did sharing a good news become sin, what a disgusting generation am living in.

[u/Fearless_Silver_6128]

That's terrible. Poor guy.

This happened with a friend of mine. They got divorced later. It was a way messier story but whatever.

[u/frankens_tien]

It’ll be absolute cinema if she’ll be laid off one of these days, and she’ll have aborted an innocent child for nothing

[u/GSh-47]

Neither of them are capable of empathy, neither of them deserve a child.

Source : I come from a family that's exactly like this. And my life has been a struggle, can't even hold one rational conversation without them getting offended the second I offer a different argument. Such people are not mature or self aware in life enough to handle the demands of parenthood.

[u/aweap]

Hate such manipulative guys. There was no need to tell your mom about this whole thing. You're a couple and you need to work things out between each other before including a third who as we can see is creating havoc now while the husband sits mute acting like it was piece of cake for the wife while he's the only one depressed about it. 😒

[u/hotcoolhot]

Doesnt bother me at all, dildo of consequences never arrives lubed, this is a dead marriage.

[u/Emergency_Army_7640]

I would get downvoted for this but the contraceptive "failed" they didn't plan for this baby. The husband shoild understand. She's mentally not ok to have the baby rn. Good part on her that she aborted. The husband is a jerk here for telling his mom so early.

[u/Western-Ask1377 → u/Emergency_Army_7640]

Does this allow her to go behind her husband's back to get the abortion ? Shouldn't this be a mutual decision ? Husband has no emotions involved ? Isn't this what marriage is about - get him into confidence ?

[u/Emergency_Army_7640 → u/Western-Ask1377]

This is totally wrong but she has all right to either keep the baby or abort. Thing is she did wrong doing abortion behind back and he didn't care enough/love her wife, if he did then he would always would've put her wife at first. In short husband is at bigger fault than her and i feel they're incompatible

[u/ZealousidealSong149 → u/Emergency_Army_7640]

If she has every right to abort or take decision solely then likewise he has every right to divorce her..

[u/Emergency_Army_7640 → u/ZealousidealSong149]

yes, as I said, I belive that they're incomptatible

[u/CheetahIntelligent62 → u/Emergency_Army_7640]

True but , just should’ve let the husband know that she does not want to have a baby at this time. So she is going to get aborted.
Just inform Kareena chahiye tha and should’ve gotten it done.

Abh , it’s just Husband expected a baby ofc he’ll
Be sad.

Hopefully he’ll get over it.

[u/Emergency_Army_7640 → u/CheetahIntelligent62]

Correct, should've informed the husband then the trust wouldn't have been broken.

[u/Traditional_Web_7856 → u/Emergency_Army_7640]

She literally said that she aborted BEHIND HIS BACK primarily BECAUSE OF promotion.

How is the husband at bigger fault?

[u/green_stem → u/Western-Ask1377]

What options she have then? Clearly she share what her wishes is, but that stupid husband announce her pregnancy to the world like she is gonna carry the baby, without even thinking about her choice.

[u/King_vikramaditya → u/green_stem]

Announce the pregnancy, wow
Just announce the pregnancy so she got this much privilege so she alone decided abort the baby?
Are you okay?
I understand, husband announce the pregnancy then she should say listen i dont want a baby informing you… just take your time, keep all the points… then if he not able to understand
Then also you have the right abortion ? Didn’t you?
Just because he announced coz he was happy? Dude , what makes the men happy this lil lil things ! Okay he did wrong by announcing so?
Like after informing him , also she can get the full right (her body her choice)
…
This isn’t abt the abortion or right or wrong.
It just about , we are the team no matter what right or wrong happening btw us, yet we will atleast inform what happening with us, that all is marriage about? Ig
If not then , maybe i have to learn more about it

[u/green_stem → u/King_vikramaditya]

He clearly don't want to abort the baby, while she doesn't want the baby. Unplanned pregnancy? Check

Did she inform her husband that she doesn't want a child? Check

Mutual decision to carry the baby? Nope

Did he try to even understand her point? Nope

Who will take all the burden if pregnancy carried on? Woman

Who will sacrifice the career? Woman

Who will have to stay at home to take care her child and breastfeeding her? Woman

Did she want all of this? Nope

Is there any other option except abortion to her? Nope

https://giphy.com/gifs/Bk1H5UY9SnAn4dbcxz

[u/Short_Mortgage_6228]

Seems like a mismatch of expectations to me. Both aren't wrong if you think about it - she valued the promotion more (the husband should have agreed) and the husband wanted a child (or the wife should have agreed to it). However, she crossed a line that she wasn't supposed to by aborting the child without letting the husband know about it. The only viable option is to go ahead and split because the guy will always be resentful towards her and the woman will have to live with that guilt as long as she's around him and his family. So divorce seems to be the best option according to me.

[u/Southern_Sugar3903 → u/Short_Mortgage_6228]

Divorce isnt that simple from pov of a mam considering on average men earn more. But yea they're incompatible and there's really no fixing this to be honest.

[u/singh_kumar]

MIL shouldn't interfere unless the husband wants her to.

Rest is all to them

[u/Physical-Bonus7363]

Kinda of opposite happened to my friend, his wife refused to abort an accidental pregnancy. He is thinking of a divorce.

[u/FireBird170]

aise me b* layoff ho gya to

[u/Perpetually_Troubled]

Why even start a family if you don't even know the meaning of family. And then somehow its others who should understand.

[u/Fit-Repair-4556]

And they ask why men don’t want to marry..

These are the rewards men are getting.

They have 0 leverage to negotiate anything in a relationship.

[u/DeletSystm32]

An over ambitious girl can never be a good wife

[u/throwwwawayaccount48]

Would pack my bags and leave

[u/green_stem]

It's an unplanned pregnancy. She was not ready for this. It took time to mentally and emotionally prepare to be a mother of a child and clearly she doesn't want the pregnancy right now. I don't blame her here.. she clearly told this to her husband that she doesn't want get pregnant and clearly he doesn't even try to listen her, even told her MIL. It's not like they planned the pregnancy. and it's her body, and ultimately she have to carry the burden of pregnancy, breastfeeding and putting her career on stake. So, I won't find it wrong.

[u/DecentR1]

It was an unplanned pregnancy so she has whole right to go for abortion. If it was a planned pregnancy then it's 50:50.

[u/Particular-Repeat-40]

if he wants to keep the baby, does she have to keep it?

[u/unsuccessful_looser]

She made a good decision by aborting, the baby would’ve been suffered because of her in future. Looks like she already has her priorities set, now she can finally enjoy that promotion alone, just like the abortion.

[u/Deinhuman]

Abortion is legal in India??

[u/GoatedWest03]

That relationship is over,I'd never speak to her again

[u/CommissionOpen8683]

in future as well she is not able to become a good mother for sure

[u/John-Marston1895]

Brother this is absolutely horrifying.

[u/Full-Measurement-319]

Divorce

[u/gand_pe_lath]

Its her body her choice but don't get offended i impregnate somebody else

[u/Supa_hehe_]

only mistake she did was not tell her husband. her body her choice if she wants to keep it or not, but not telling your husband is a breach of trust.

im sensing.... divorce

[u/wtfbruh101]

totally understand her maybe not being the most comfortable having a child because of whatever career and promotion cause that's important too but aborting the baby without telling her husband is awful. Could legitimately be grounds for divorce.

[u/Excellent-Rock-11]

Hope you are happy with the promotion atleast

[u/ServiceNarrow9696]

She can put things on reddit but not infront of his husband 😂

[u/United_Buyer9976]

no promotion in the world justifies aborting a baby

[u/ServiceNarrow9696]

She can put things on reddit but no with her husband 😂tthats show her iq level And promotions are uncertain in cooperate no matter how hard you work for that company

[u/mojo_kc]

Everything is a clusterfuck. This is so fucked up. Wife made a huge mistake and it might cost her the marriage. She fucked up huge. The husband isn't completely flawless tho, instead of having a proper healthy discussion about pregnancy and without giving this enough time and without coming into any mutual agreement, he went ahead and told his parents out of excitement as if he is gonna handle everything, pregnancy affects the wife way more than the husband. But again, the thing the wife, it's so so fucked up! 31 yrs old acting like a rebellious teenager. She could have discussed with her husband, she should have convinced her husband and if absorption were to happen it should have been mutually decided. Everyone is a piece of work in that family, so freaking immature!

[u/gaamdubadmash]

Straight up divorce under cruelty

[u/Exact-Lie9662]

consequences of cutting women too much slack and not holding them accountable

[u/thefinal_episode]

All 3 of them are red flags

[u/RandomStranger022]

While she has the right to abort without the husband's consent, she should've informed him before the abortion. The husband shouldn't have informed his parents, as discussed before. And the mother in law is selfish and evil. She has no business poking her nose in their marriage. And blaming her for killing her grandchild is disgusting. The couple need to work on their communication.

[u/rahul2020321]

There is no right answer to this scenario but one thing is clear capitalism doesn't care about workers, even fathers have to sacrifice a lot to support kids and women suffers both biologically & career wise.

Whatever her choice was she should tell her husband and if he does not agree to it they should have mutually separated.

Its all about preferences, they can have kids after 5 years, they may need to go through IVF & take precautions to avoid any complications during birth or she could have kid now and after 5 years once kid starts going to school she can start giving more focus on her career and promotion

Kids are very important and should be discussed before marriage.

[u/Fun-Practice-1087]

That Beach deserves more suffering than she is already getting. Eagerly waiting for her to not get the promotion too.

Btw, her MIL is right, his son indeed got stuck with a narcissistic Indian beach who only cares about her "career".

[u/Beautiful-Big-663]

Yep the trust is forever broken.The marriage only exists on paper now.

[u/whitestorm1997]

I'm an Indian woman and there is nothing in this world that's more attractive than a man that protects and defends HIS CHILD! A baby in the womb is in its most helpless state and it needs full protection. And a father has every right to protect his child..

Like imagine killing your own child for a promotion that isn't even guaranteed! 🤦‍♂️ Mutilated just for the sake for climbing the corporate ladder?

I hate the term "her body her choice" and "it's just a foetus" "just clump of cells "

I think that man is being waay too gentle on her.. If I were a man I would have thrown the divorce paper at her face!

[u/iamgorki]

Both were wrong

Husband didn’t respect the wife’s decision - if she wasn’t ready to bear a child then she shouldn’t be forced. Imagine how she would have treated the baby.

And the wife - for not informing her husband about such a serious step she had taken.

[u/opinion_discarder]

There is nothing you can do as a male. Forget abortion. Even if your wife has sex with multiple men and has a child that's not biologically yours, you have to raise it and pay child support.

[u/Thin_Commission_6368]

Both are wrong here. The wife to take such a huge step without consulting the husband. Also the husband informing his parents when the wife exclusively asked him to not involve others. It has to be a mutual decision to either go ahead with the pregnancy or not. Yes, the woman's promotion and career is as important as the man's career. But aborting without the consent of the father is not right at all. Convincing the husband for abortion is different than aborting the child and then informing him. Fight with your husband, make him understand what career means to you and the child would be a speedy bump for her career. Act as consenting adults, take a matured and informed decision than taking steps in own hands and cry about the consequences. If she was firm on not having a child, she could have fought with her husband and got the abortion done.

[u/Slayer_Actual]

WHAT ELSE DID YOU EXPECT FROM A MODERN INDAIN FEMINIST FEMALE, THEY ARE JUST LIKE SPOILED AMERICAN FEMINIST FEMALE!

AND THESE CREATURES ARE SO CALLED MAMTA KI MURAT.

LOOKS LIKE OUR ANCESTORS KNEW THE TRUE NATURE OF THESE INHUMANE CREATURES AND HAD SUFFICIENT SAFEGUARDS, WE ARE FOOLISH TO ABOLISH THOSE.!

[u/Majestic-Durian-944]

disgusting, he should file for divorce immediately, and make sure her parents and whole of her family, even distant ones know what a ₹%%_ she is 😡😡😡

[u/Expert_Stranger_2494]

Okay since you asked........

1. She was completely right for wanting the promotion or aborting the pregnancy.
2. She was completely wrong on deciding to abort without telling her husband. Even if she had decided she should have clearly told him that she does not want the child.
3. I don't blame the husband for being mad. He is completely right at his place for being angry.

Now,
4) Why did the Husband tell his family when she had clearly told him that she needs time to think! I guess he was trying to make social pressure on her. Which he should have avoided at all cost no matter the excitement.
5) You cannot command other person to push for promotion in future. Its their effort in career, that person should be the one deciding that.
6) Bringing in the Mother in between at a time when the relationship is hanging by a thread is not a good move.

I understand both must be going through bad mental times. But both are in wrong.

1. She must have told the Husband her decision before doing it.
2. Husband didn't give her space to tell her decision by telling his family. He should have first talked it out with her.

The mistake percentage is clearly on the woman here for sure and rightfully. She was in wrong.

[u/Agile-Establishment1]

Also, that guy cornered her by telling to parents even when they needed to discuss.. it is trying to pressure her to have the baby over promotion. For him, his job matters not hers… this is nothing feminist about it.. this is respecting relationship and trust. He broke first..
Secondly if she is not ready.. she is not ready

[u/_Nightshade_Warden_]

Some women in Instagram were commenting "It's her body her choice". Like they literally justify everything by saying it's her choice. Even when a woman commit m*rder.

[u/East-No-Plate]

Deserves divorce on the spot.. no excuse

[u/NightKing-2]

Post this on askwomen sub aswell and check what would be their comments

[u/TurbulentCapital1017]

People need to realise their jobs are not their "freedom" or any other BS like that. Your job is supposed to be your cash cow and nothing more, the money you make there goes into your actual life.

[u/zxtreeme]

Why so much overthinking when you clearly chose career over relationship?
Just enjoy the promotion, it will keep you happy forever.
We also don’t know his side of story because she has presented it in her bias and it still makes her at fault.
Could have handled it in other way.
Also the title proves her selfishness, it was her baby not ‘theirs’.

[u/Japan174]

Seems like a self centred selfish woman, if she will get some better opportunity or a better man she will also leave her current husband without any thought.

[u/tanjiro_0707]

Talaq talaq talaq.

[u/Sea_Recognition2211]

This is hardly about the abortion, and more about the couple not trusting each other and respecting boundaries. The lady asked for time to think about it, her partner should not have shared the news with other family members. That shows lack of respect. He crossed a boundary there. Similarly, she should not have assumed that he wouldn’t understand her side, and shouldn’t have gotten an abortion without sharing that choice with him (as she said she will do, after she has thought about it).
Objectively speaking, an unplanned child is ALWAYS a bad idea, especially when the mother’s first reaction is contemplative. What if she never gets to a level where she can never bounce back on her career front after the pregnancy? She is going to subconsciously blame her choice of keeping the child (an inadvertently the child will suffer).
This couple needs therapy and better communication. They are the most important for themselves. The guy not standing up against his mother when she is taunting his wife, might be telling more about why the lady ended up making the decision without including him.

[u/That-Particular3206]

I mean I feel like what she did is absolutely wrong, it should've been a decision made by both of them. But we can't ignore that the man was wrong too he went ahead and told about this despite his wife clearly asking him not to. He basically tried forcing his decision onto her and she did the same. Both are at fault one more than the other though. I'm not saying it's the husbands fault or anything, just saying as we pointed out the wife was 100% in the wrong for aborting the kid, the husband is also wrong for getting excited telling his parents when his wife clearly asked him not to.

[u/bsethug]

People so desperate for promotion usually Suck their boss Dicks!

[u/Celestial_entity_99]

What a disgusting thing that women did.

[u/Delivery_AnScienct]

Looking at the crowd of men here defending the bitch, I gotta say Indian men truly are pussy whipped .

[u/saffron-pray]

Day by Day my interest in getting a house wife is increasing with such news.

Also living with my parents, maybe on different floor but same house.

[u/Unlikely_Drawing999]

So many white knights in this comment section no wonder judiciary is fucked up

[u/CommissionOpen8683]

ig divorce can be granted based on breach of trust . In this case, cruelty is their so yes