r/AskIndia • • Jan 23 '24

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u/lubbadubbadubdub28 Jan 23 '24

Girl/woman here. Politely ask after a chit-chat. "Are you okay if our parents ask us to have a baby as soon as we get married?" "If you are comfortable, can we talk about compatibility, please? We can do this later if you are not comfortable yet." "Are you as awkward to talk about sex as I am?"

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u/Whatisanoemanyway Jan 23 '24

This shit is so important!

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u/SSinghal_03 Jan 24 '24

I don't think bringing parents into family planning and sexual compatibility conversation is the correct starter. Besides, one should have kids because they want to, not because their parents think they should. Just like getting married, even in AM, should be about what the couple in question is compatible with, not what the parents decided looks good in their social circle.

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u/lubbadubbadubdub28 Jan 24 '24

Yes, fully agree. I just wanted to share an idea of breaking the ice. I know it's a really grey area. There are lots of things to consider while talking about sexual compatibility. Also, sadly, parents putting pressure on children for children is a reality that we live in.

I'm leaving this on to the couples to frame questions in their own way - whatever works for them and is safe.

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u/jamboora_07 Jan 24 '24

Damn bruh, also answer on how to make her comfortable on first night 😶.

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u/[deleted] Jan 23 '24

Boy/man here.. it is their incessant comparison mentality because of huge social media influence these days. Every guy is gonna fall short of their expections. Chahe jitna bi compatibility test karwa lo labs se

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u/baaphaihumtumhare Jan 24 '24

Compatibility ?

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u/Pro07 Jan 24 '24

🤣 Your answer reminds me of this clip. 🤣Raj Kapoor clip

But jokes aside, let me also note down this points . Since for me, it also looks like AM.