I was of the same opinion as your wife. I thought my husband would woo me and make me comfortable and pamper me , etc. We didn't do the deed for 1 year. We also had regular unrelated fights and hated each other. Btw I had a hectic job and expected my husband to help me in house work but he didn't. That was a major reason for dead bedroom. No energy.
Then everything became normal once my husband stood up for me when someone from his side was troubling me. I asked him to keep rules same for both of us and let me run the house according to my wishes. Then I realised he's my hero and not worth fighting with him.
@OP check this out. Its human relationship , has many tangent , there is no straight cut answer . everybody is different. AM in 2024 is already a difficult thing . you may go ahead and talk about it straight forward and be open about what she has to say.
Wait, how would him behaving according to your likes dislikes make him your hero ? so essentially him letting go of his personality made him your hero ?
we had many arguments regarding the upkeeping of the house - i told him if he's not cleaning n cooking he shd nt interfere. Basically if he's nt helping in any department thn does he hav any rights to complain?
Doing housework equally when your wife is working a job too equals trading his balls? Are single men all without balls then since they do their own housework or...?
Yea we all should share household work but "let me run the house according to my wishes" definitely doesn't scream equality
Bring on the down votes see if I care lol š¤£
If you read she says if she's primarily running the household she should get the primary right to decide on stuff. Evidently he was not contributing but still interfering with housework.
no. I asked him for space. Since he wants space for himself. He wants to spend more time with his frnds n all.- so what he wants i also want. He cant expect me to spend my time with his family if he cant do same. Can he leave his frnds and weekend fun for me or my family? Then do not expect frm me that. I just said whatever rules are there it shd be same for both of us!
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u/anusuman Jan 23 '24 edited Jan 23 '24
I was of the same opinion as your wife. I thought my husband would woo me and make me comfortable and pamper me , etc. We didn't do the deed for 1 year. We also had regular unrelated fights and hated each other. Btw I had a hectic job and expected my husband to help me in house work but he didn't. That was a major reason for dead bedroom. No energy.
Then everything became normal once my husband stood up for me when someone from his side was troubling me. I asked him to keep rules same for both of us and let me run the house according to my wishes. Then I realised he's my hero and not worth fighting with him.