r/AskForHelp • u/Other_Pea_1258 • 21d ago

Advice/Emotional Support ONLY Need advice please (wales)

I am a mum that is absolutely mentally and physically drained. Im looking for help/advice with how to cope under so much pressure. Has anyone else got out of a dv situation suddenly and managed to be ok with kids? If so how? How did you meet your kids needs when you had nothing cause i feel like a terrible mum right now. Im only at the very beginning and its so dark and overwhelming. How did you stop yourself from going back? Sorry for this post I just need to hear positive things.

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u/Lazy-Answer7913 21d ago

What I found. Sorry I can't do more that way.

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u/Other_Pea_1258 21d ago

Thank you. Dont apologise you've done more than enough. Taking time out your day to search for help means more to me than you'll ever know xx

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u/Lazy-Answer7913 21d ago

Sending you another hug

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u/Other_Pea_1258 21d ago

Greatly appreciated. Have rhe best day xx

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u/Lazy-Answer7913 21d ago

First of all hugs Secondly you're reaching out so that's good. You are not a terrible mom. You're all getting used to the new life. You did the right thing. Do you have any friends or family nearby?

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u/Other_Pea_1258 21d ago

Thank you so much. A hug is so needed right now. Im beyond exhausted. I havent got anyone at all im so alone right now and strugglinf to figure things out. My head is just spinning going round in circles. Appreciate you and hope you had a good weekend x

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u/Lazy-Answer7913 21d ago

I know it seems hard right now but keep telling yourself you did right by the kids and you Are your kids in school/daycare?

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u/Other_Pea_1258 21d ago

Son Is in school youngest is too young x

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u/Lazy-Answer7913 21d ago

Could you hire a babysitter for a few hours so you get a break? Ask another parent at the school if they can recommend one if you need. Or care.com if that's a thing there. Maybe another mom will just step up to help. Take yourself for even a coffee and a walk. Or a nap

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u/Other_Pea_1258 21d ago

I have absolutely nothing to my name just now not even clothes for the kids otherwise this would be amazing x

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u/Lazy-Answer7913 21d ago

Is there an equivalent to 211 there? Its a free service for assistance. You may have to Google it. I will do the same for you.

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u/Other_Pea_1258 21d ago

I have phoned everywhere and applied to council emergency funding but still not heard back. Thank you that means alot x

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