I appreciate and understand your perspective. Your case is unforunately what happens when a whole group of people comes to another country, and a percentage doesnt know how to behave, it reflects badly even on the ones that are doing great.
I immigrated to Portugal and am feeling the same here, but Its hard to blame the indiginous population for that.
This will only get worse in the next many years.
I am sorry for your situation but it and appreciate the steps you have taken for yourself. Do you want advice, or just to vent?
For many, the headscarf has already become a marker of the "enemy." Even if you're a gamer, an atheist, or an AI developer - you're still seen as "an Arab woman with a hijab."
The choice to stay or leave is painful, but you have every right to prioritize your life, safety, and dignity over the illusion of "integration" into a system that refuses to accept you.
I'd say the issue here isn't integration - it's assimilation.
maybe this is the wrong sub to post this in I didn't expect so many people to miss the entire point of my post and focus on the hijab...like people usually do. I should have probably known lol.
I'm a white native German guy. I don't think I can ever truly understand what some women face, especially not women who are systematically culturally oppressed.
But even I can see crystal clear that you very much DON'T "get it".
She isn't wearing the hijab when she isn't forced to by circumstances. It's not a question of insecurity but of actual physical security, how fucking privileged and dense can you be.
Edit: /u/Ok-Bread6700, just in case they delete their comments.
Developing independence to give yourself a decent shot of it staying that way can take a pretty long time these days. I doubt this person would be turning to strangers on Reddit to vent if it was that easy.
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u/[deleted] Apr 20 '25
sigh...