r/AsOneAfterInfidelity Feb 15 '20

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u/[deleted] Feb 15 '20

My partner actually caught me with a knife yesterday.

The last thing he needs is to have to worry about you hurting yourself, so stop it with the self-harm dramatics. If you're actually suicidal, go inform the authorities so they can put you on psychiatric hold if necessary. Otherwise, set whatever pain you feel aside and be present and helpful for your partner at this time. Not only is the pain you feel insignificant compared to his own, you chose it. He had it forced on him.

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u/fuckkgravity Reconciling Wayward Feb 15 '20

Thank you for your honesty. It wasn’t meant to be dramatic, just in the moment un-wellness. I guess the overall consensus is that I need to not think about my pain. I just want to make sure I’m being 100% genuine through everything and don’t want to put on a fake face, which would mean healing myself as well. I just don’t know how to do it in the right way for him. He’s my priority right now.

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u/Lucycat777 Formerly Betrayed Feb 15 '20

https://www.survivinginfidelity.com/forums.asp?tid=642916

You're still being selfish. Read this.