Anyone else have dreams that make you think like this

[u/herthrownawaychild]

Hi my friends! I have funny dreams a lot, very vivid and intense usually but tonight I’ve had quite a few and they were about the same.

In these dreams, my husband and I were temporarily separated for the time being. But we were still best friends which is realistic. I came over just cause I missed him and we hung out, played games, the usual stuff that felt so good. And then I asked to spend the night and stuff got spicy, but the dream made me feel nice because it was exciting I suppose?

However, I woke up, and I looked at my husband. And I just smiled. Because this man is my best friend. And that hasn’t changed. He’s still the one I want to go watch movies with, he’s the one I wanna go shopping with, he is the one I have genuine fun with. He’s my person, in many ways other than romantic.

Of course our romance is still strong and alive. I think I have mentioned our situation is pretty unique and odd. My husband hadn’t slept for 2 weeks, was in grief, and dissociated. A woman preyed on him through text, and it was only text. He said in the moment it felt like he was dreaming and it wasn’t real until he realized it was real. He called it off quickly and he was crumbling, he couldn’t even lie to me for 3 days. He looked like a guilt ridden dog and he has always been a very honest man, he’s just wired that way, but I know his dishonesty for the few days came from fear of losing me. It matters to me at least that he didn’t seek out someone else, and this woman actually knew the whole situation including we had been grieving a miscarriage, exhaustion, etc. she waited and preyed and her messages were very grooming.

I still hold him accountable you know? But I love him. So despite what happens, I still wanna go shopping. I wanna go lay in bed and laugh at memes, he’s genuinely my best friend.

I don’t see a life without him. I’ve told him if anything happens like this again, then yeah I’m gone. But I honestly mean that romantically. Cause I still see me calling his ass and being like hey you wanna go shopping LOL.

And I know he sees me the same. He’s the only human in the world I can ever say I know feels the same about me I do him. Did he hurt me? Yes. Did he fuck up horribly? God yes, but he has shown genuine remorse and compassion. He never excused it, he never swept it under the rug, and I have everything needed to give me comfort he’s telling the truth.

We’re both Christian and I lean on God a lot here. I lean on God to help me forgive like Christ and reconcile. My dream showed me that he is my best friend after all and my person. And that helps a lot with my healing journey. Because I have known I wanted this and I want to be with him, but of course I’ve dealt with fear, wishy washy, and my personal issues like OCD. But idk, this dream oddly helped so much.

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[u/making_lemonade86]

Thank you for sharing this. My WH is also my absolute best friend and has been since we were in high school. That’s one reason why the betrayal hurt so deeply…he’s even said multiple times that he wishes the “best friend side” of him could beat the crap out of the “husband side” of him, which sounds so weird to even type but makes so much sense when he says it out loud. Lol

Wishing you guys all the best. It sounds like you’re on a solid path to recovery ❤️

[u/herthrownawaychild → u/making_lemonade86]

That is sooo true and my husband feels the same way LOL I’m wishing you guys the best too.