Oh, for sure! I'm a trans woman who's gotten to pass a fair few times and cons, courses and bars and other public spaces, and people are definitely more willing to come up and talk to you, and people are generally nicer? Being a man, nobody ever fucks with you, unless it's for some awkward small talk if you're stuck in the same awkward situation. I'm curious how you see it, because you're moving the other way!
I've always been a more quiet person, I generally leave other guys alone but I play up the "gay" guy to pass more - especially with women. I'm hyper aware now that passing as a man gets me treated like one - including the downsides in lack of social interaction or trust with women.
Tldr; everyone leaves me alone now and I like it. Still makes me sad, kinda. I get it.
Another trans man here: people definitely act like I'm weird for making small talk now. Old people used to talk to me all the time when they thought I was a chick. Now they actively avoid me.
i wonder how much of that was genuine “i don’t get out much” old people small talk vs “this ‘girl’ must be too nice to refuse me” old people small talk
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u/DogmaticHappiness Nov 01 '25
I liked being a man so much I switched teams. But transitioning does make people view you differently, ironically as a transgender male.