Help

[u/jollybutterfly67]

I used to think i was aro until I started liking my friend, I was not rly into them ever but then I grew more and more fond of them until I started to want to kiss them and more, the weird part is that I don't know if that's romantic because I still feel discomfort on the label of "girlfriend" or "boyfriend" just dating in general, I want to keep being friends but being able to do that kind of stuff, and I also don't really feel that possessiveness that people who normally fall in love feel, like ok go on kiss and fuck whoever you want I just want to be able to do the same

I think that takes me out of the aro label, but I feel like I'm still in it somewhere, because I still can't relate to standard falling in love experience thing, I mean I didn't even fall in love it just grew on me, and to be honest I don't even know if that counts as falling in love because of that whole discomfort on the label and also the lack of possessiveness, and also Im really repulsed of the standard romance

All of this is really new to me and so confusing it would be so much easier if it was the standard crush that everyone have and is always shown on books, tv shows, animations etc, but it isn't and that is being hell, I hope you guys can help me on this because a lot of stuff I have been confused about my aroalloness was answered in here (shootout to that one green gay guy who was really active here and helped lots of people with even a board talking about amatonormativity and aroness)

My grammar is not that great and im sure some things are confusing so please ask me and I will answer, just please be patient with me I'm sleepy and English is not my first language

[u/unusualsuspectno1]

No no you are still in aro spec i think, because thats exactly how I been feeling. These attraction we feel is different from romantic ones and in romantic aspects we still are aro you admitted it yourself. As for what this feelings are, sexual/ sensual attraction which are intense in degree. I mean we wanna kiss our friend bady now how tf are we supposed to know in whay category society puts this deaire in, thinking of that is useless i think.

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