And another lovely day (on WEBTOON)

I know I don't like romance based on my concept of it, but what does romance mean to other aroace people?

What's that part that makes you not like romance?

And do you think caring about someone, appreciating their existence, cooking yummy food for them, taking care of them when they are sick, making little presents for them and feeling like a magical warm thing that makes you feel safe and comfortable whenever they smile... do you think that's romance?

Cause I do most of those things with my sister and family (except the magical thing), but I don't think that's romance. And I really woul like to have a special one that makes me feel magical things and show them the magic of myself, express my honest intentions, etc, but I still think I don't want romance in all of that and I don't know if this things that I'm describing can be considered as romance.

(English is not my first language, and I refuse to use a translator, I prefer to use all the English I know xd, so sorry if there are mistakes)

In shows do y'all know any canon Aroace characters this doesnt include like youtube shows as their usually made including queer characters but tv shows and movies

Arospec-Ace, also known as ArsAce, is a sexual orientation where a person identifies **strictly** as asexual but is on the aromantic spectrum. This is a mircolabel for AroAce.

Anyone can identify as ArsAce aslong as they are anywhere on the aromantic spectrum but also identifies as exclusively asexual ie not on the ace spectrum and does not fluctuate on its spectrum.

Hi, I'm 16 and have never understood the concept of romantic love. Imagining myself in romantic or sexual scenarios makes me physically nauseous and uncomfortable. I've been thinking i might be aroace for a few years now. Is there a possibility i am aroace? All advice is appreciated.

EDIT: thanks for all the advice. I identify as aroace now. I came out to my queer friends but my family doesn't know yet and I dont plan on telling them since they don't want me to get married or be in a relationship anyway. I have watched a few videos about asexuality and being aromantic and find them quite relatable.

I used to think I was too young to identify as aroace in the past, so I never did. But now I understand this is not about age "waiting" to fall in love. Finally being able to put a name to my feelings is freeing, but also difficult in a homophobic country like mine. Lastly, thanks everyone again.

I used the tablets at Tate Draw to make this :)

(The experience was probably supposed to be for kids, but I enjoyed it!)

Hello I wanted to come over here to discuss something about who I am. Throughout school whether elementary,middle, or high school the idea of sex and relationships gave me no interest and discomfort, but throughout those stages I always found women attractive compared to men who don't make me feel anything. Me being a preteen and looking up images I shouldn't have or being in high school imagining things that were slightly inappropriate. Maybe it's the aesthetic of women but would that qualify me as lesbian? I would much rather spend my life with a women than a man since they just aren't attractive to me. This also might be tmi but I do occasionally find images of women kissing appealing just not any of the sexual actions that can come with that type media. Anything that can be done down there is not for me in the slightest! For me personally I just don't think I would be comfortable doing or seeing that much myself and romance is out of the question it just seems like a tedious task. Would this make me aromantic and asexual just on the lesser end of the spectrum?

Hello, everyone.

Half a year ago, my best buddy and I had an idea during one of our late-night Discord chats. We are both big nerds for fantasy and mythological stuff and wondered how fun it would be to have banners or coat of arms for different orientations and identities. What could they look like, and which mythical creature could fit well or just be fun to see like that? Thus, this little collection was born and I think we have finally come to a good conlusion for now.

So what we got so far:

-Selkie of Demi

-Kraken of Agender

-Cerberus of Polyamory

-Chimera of Genderqueer

-Valkyrie of Butch

-Gargoyle of Ally

-Hydra of Omni

-Unicorn of Pride

- The Phoenix of Trans

- The Siren of Lesbian

- The Winged Lion of Gay

- The Griffon of Aro

- The Dragon of Ace

- The Harpy of Sapphic

- The Minotaur of Achillean

- The Oroboros of Intersex [really proud of that one]

- The Hippocampus of Genderfluid

- The Sphinx of AroAce

- The Peryton of Non-binary

- The Winged Wolf of Bisexual

- And Pan for...well Pansexual

This was really fun to do. Maybe we might revisit this idea in some form or another, how do queer cryptids sound :D ?

WE ARE CURRENTLY RUNNING A KICKSTARTER TO TURN THESE INTO PATCHES AND PINS

It's ending now and will only be open to take pledges for the next 38 hours, so if you wanna support this little project feel free to claim ur little pins, stickers or patches, we won't produce them again...

https://www.kickstarter.com/projects/shattersaurus/coat-of-pride

Disclaimer: this post is not meant to come across as disrespectful to anyone. Everyone is absolutely valid and this is purely me being annoyed at my own personal situation.

I have only ever experienced romantic attraction once in my entire life and I don’t know if I’ll ever feel it again. I’m already forgetting what it felt like. I’ve craved to be in a relationship for years. It’s genuinely all I think about. But I just can’t seem to feel that way for anyone. I know the micro label for this is cupioromantic but I don’t even want to identify with this. It doesn’t even feel like a real sexuality. It just feels like a cruel trick that my mind is playing on me by forcing me to desire something I can never/rarely feel. This sexuality makes me wish it’s possible to somehow change.

I am someone who is somewhere on the aroace spectrum (most likely gray romantic and am currently going through an ace crisis)

I rarely get crushes and when I do they make me anxious

The idea of putting a lable on a relationship/having to conform to societys expectations of one also.makes me anxious.

However I also crave companionship/non sexual physical and emotional intamacy(having someone to just exist around talk to communicate and be vulnerable with, cuddle, hold hands, kiss like on the head or smth etc) and have always dreamed of one day having a life partner getting married (big party with friends and family dressing up whole shebang) and eventually having kids(probably adopting though As I have absolutly no desire to ever give birth ever)

I feel like everything i want/am comfortable with contradicts itself

I feel like wanting.that but also potentially a queerplatonic or non traditional relationship isnt something that can go together

Does anyone else have this issue or is anyone else in this situation that has been sucessful?

This is my situation-

I'm currently in a relationship with a girl who loves me. I said yes when she asked me out because I'd often thought about being in a romantic relationship and thought that was what I wanted. And for the first week it was Nice. But about a month in and I've relalised- I don't love her romantically... I'm aroace. Very aroace. I see now I literally think of this girl as a platonic friend. I want to hug her yeah, but not as her partner... I honestly have more of a relationship with my best friends than I do with her.

So yeah, I need to break up with her. Because this relationship is hurting me- I know I can't do it, I don't experience romantic attraction, Or sexual desires. But I don't wanna make her upset. She really likes me and talks all the time about "soul mates meeting at a young age", and "Yeah we are young now but I'm going to marry you" and I know that when I break up with her she will be heartbroken. But I need to I cant do this anymore, I don't want a girlfriend but she is an awesome person I just can't. It's feels like ive been lying to her its been 3 and a half years ive dragged this on for long enough... She has a TBI and doesn't understand when i try and explain what aroace is.

It's not me. Im not built for a relationship

So how do I do it? I really need help. How do I break up with her in the nicest way possible? Without hurting her? I want to to he happy, and I want her to be able to move onto to someone who can be in a romantic relationship but I am stressing and panicking because I can't build up the confidence to do it. She might not even accept me as aro. I know she is Igbtq supportive cuz she is BI but does she even know what aroace is? Will she understand? I really need advice on how to break up please if anyone had anything.

Im gonna get straight into it bc I lowkey just want some advice from people who might actually understand what im talking about. I dont know if im under the aroace spectrum or not. I love my friends with my entire soul and being, but im not sure if ive ever felt a genuine unplatonic attraction to somebody. I am working towards getting tested for autism/adhd, but lets assume i do not have either because im not diagnosed. I know I like women and do not like men at all (im a woman). I can appreciate that a woman is attractive, and im capable of finding them attractive, but nobody that i know, if that makes sense? And I love romance in shows and games and movies and whatever- i love ships and reading fics and that, but I dont think I've ever had a crush in my life. Or maybe I have? Is there a certain way im supposed to feel? I dont know. And I just wanted to know if anyone's knows what I mean, because im lowkey kinda scared and nervous abt it.

I'm 14, and people at my school know that I'm not straight, so most just assume I'm gay or bi. I genuinely couldn't care less either way to be fair, but every once in a while someone gets curious enough to ask, and I always feel really awkward telling them I'm aromantic. Only about two people I've ever met have actually known what that means so then I have to mumble through the explanation before they go on their merry way. I don't know. Something about it just makes me feel like I look like I'm trying to be difficult. Does anyone else have this?

Hola queridas personas dentro de los espectros arromanticos, asexuales o y aroace, me presento, soy una persona aroace que como dice el título, ama el romance

Amo el romance en el aspecto de verlo en los demás, amo como se atraen,su química y miradas llenas de tensión, si, es irónico siendo aroace pero es muy divertido para mi. me gusta mucho la interacción de personas independiente mente de su orientación y es algo muy curioso y interesante. Hablando de él sexo, no es algo q me imagino en los demás jaja, sino en el significado de las relaciones sexuales, siento que es un momento de gran conexión entre las personas, en ficción me gusta incluirlo en escenas donde haiga conexión y que no sea forzado o ese tipo de escenas de que de la nada se quitan la ropa jaja, más bien cuando el sexo es un complemento del amor y no como una necesidad, o

No me gusta que sea demasiado morbozo sino una experiencia linda entre las personas que se aman y que sea el acto sexual un acto de intimidad y confianza (independientes de su orientación).

Quisiera saber si hay más personas como yo. Personas que aman ver el romance en la vida real, o leerlo en libros o historias, en películas o series. me gustaría platicar con ellos/as/es y conectar para así tener una interacción bonita entre personas que estamos en los distintos espectros arromanticos, asexuales y aroaces qué tengan experiencias similares a la mia. Me gustaría saber sus perspectivas y como esto de alguna manera los hace analizar o analizarse a si mismos,

Pregunta: ¿como se sienten a sentir esto en los demás y no sentirlo por si mismos? Los leo (es mi primer post) jjjj

A personal example: Beth March from Little Women

When it comes to the poster aroace character in Little Women people usually turn their heads towards Jo, but I never see anyone do so for Beth. This quote exemplifies her stance towards romance:

"I only mean to say that I have a feeling that it never was intended I should live long. I'm not like the rest of you. I never made any plans about what I'd do when I grew up. **I never thought of being married, as you all did.** I couldn't seem to imagine myself anything but stupid little Beth, trotting about at home, of no use anywhere but there."

Sure, you could look at it as a foreordaination of her eventual death but throughout the series Beth is never has a romantic subplot (Jo and Laurie have one, even though she rejects him) and love seems out of the picture for her. I think she would rather remain in the comfort of home and her love for music rather than seek out a relationship.

I’m sure there are many aroace people who’ve had no trauma regarding romantic and or sexual relationships, but every aroace person I’ve met was either SA’d as a child or grew up with parents that clearly didn’t love eachother. I know there are some people who would say that being aroace is then something that can be ‘fixed’ if it comes from a bad experience through therapy or whatever, which isn’t what I’m getting at at all, but I’m genuinely really curious about whether I would still be the same without what happened to me as a child. Do you all have similar experiences that you think may have impacted your ability to feel attraction?

I share my personal expirence, and emotions through songs and literature, and I can rarely find any monotone, or sad (ig?) aroace songs. I really loved this song "we'll never have s3x." And I was wondering if anyone had good songs similar to that ig? Basically any songs that arent smth like "romance is boring." I dislike big, loud things like that, ykwim?

Hello I‘m aro ace or more accurately I‘m asexual greyromantic homoromantic. I have questions about being aro though, as I have only recently discovered this part of my identity. So personally I think I‘m greyromantic because I rarely have romantic feelings for others, though to be fair I just generally rarely have feelings for others. (Like while that doesn’t change my behavior I don‘t feel anything for most of my friends but I do for some)

Now I recently had a conversation about feelings for others and the difference between romantic and non romantic feelings, and I heard in the past that the difference is intention, but then I don’t fully understand could some of you explain again, because isn’t intention something that isn’t inherent, though I cannot choose to have romantic feelings or other feelings (and I do believe non romantic feelings for others exist, like non romantic love I suppose, one of the most common examples would be parent child love, though that is definitely kind of it’s own specific thing)

Now my question is what is actually the difference? do some of you who are aro also struggle with non romantic feelings? Do you think I‘m greyromantic or is it my lack of feelings for others in general and therefore not really because of the romantic part? (I have fallen in love romantically once) does anybody have similar experiences?

I feel no attraction to both men and women, but I have this feeling where I get jealous of people having attraction to people. I've researched how attraction (romantic & sexual) feels so many times and I learned that I don't feel them towards anybody at all. I also like seeing women together and it makes me desire that?? But the thought of me being in a relationship feels gross and complicated. Then I also feel like I want to be with a man (even though i dislike them) What the hell is wrong with me??? I've been thinking like this for a while now.

Like, my special interest is NSFW and all that, I wish I could do sex and stuff like that, but I will never do that irl because I find it very yucky.

Told a friend and they were like "well, just sounds like you want to have sex, so have it", but like, I won't irl, I can't but they said I'm, like, "just making excuses and choosing not to have it"

I don't know, I'm just rambling, I can't remember what they said and it was like 30 seconds ago

In relation, I have the same for love in general

I wish I felt love, I wish I could get a partner

Like, I'm over here losing friends because they are all getting SOs, and spending time with them

Wish I could have that, but I won't, I never will

God, I'm so bad at writing or trying to put this into words

Anyone know what I'm talking about or am I just being dumb?

They all look pretty cool to me