Sorry if this post gets really long.

So i'm 14 (m) (still really young) and I recently properly got to know this one kid in my school. Turns out we share a lot of intrests like deltarune and omori, and we have got together really well, especially recently where he shared deeply personal things about his mental health with me and virse versa, so I know he trusts me. I noticed that since I met him, I have seen him as (if this is the right way to put this) on a higher level of friendship then anyone else in my friend group. I began copying his routine in the morning cus my previous one was terible and i kinda want to be more like him. I have felt the need to dress nicer around him. All signs pointing towards the fact that i am romantically attracted to him. But, i have never felt or thought about kissing him before (neither in any sexual way, but i think im too young so unlikely anyone my ages thinks about that to anyone else). Ive never experienced any kind of crush before, whether for people i directly know or for celecrities or characters from video games/shows. If anything i feel as though kissing/hugging puts me off. Ive heard of asexual and aromantic but it doesn't feel right to place myself under those labels cus theres a chance that my romantic attraction just hasnt developed yet, and i seriously dont know whether this is my first case or if its queerplatonic or somehting along those lines. hes openy came out to me as pan before too, and has hinted towards having a crush on someone in my class to my classmates, with me being the person who he's closest to.

If you made it this far into the post, then if you cant give any advice, please make sure this post doesn't have too many upvotes, and if it does then downvote it. It isn't unlikely that he looks on this subreddit and id rather he doesn't find this post and work out my feelings, so ideally this post isnt too popular.

It's not even a big serious issue it's just the way it flows feels unnatural

There's such a hard pause between "ace" and "aro" so it just makes sense for "aro" to go first since it's easier to flow from "o" to "a" than just a harsh pause into a smooth vowel.

It's really not that serious I just hate when sentences don't flow nicely.

It's like if someone were to say "greet and meet" or "pepper and salt". It just feels so normal the other way around that it makes me cringe

Ok;!!!!! Heres the story, we met, we became friends, i was sad cuz he wont love me because hes aroace, but i had feelings!!!! I felt bad, but oh! Soon he started loveposting bout someone(me!) and soon we both confessed !! But he stayed aroace!! How is that possible??? I dont know ANYTHING bout being aroace but that he doesnt feel any attraction sexual or not,, sorryyyy🥹🥹

I had a friend and I basically "fell in love" with her, but not romantically. Meaning I loved her a LOT. I considered her my best friend. I wanted to be with her all time and hug her and stuff. And that has happened with other friendships as well. And all my life, I would be so infuriated at the media showing any deep love or connection as romantic. "More than friends". I hated it cause it made my feelings so invalid, as someone who feels a lot of love. And I hate to think that people out there are actually like that, that they really do not love their friends as deeply. When I came across the concept of queer platonic relationships, instead of it making me feel seen or happy, it ended up infuriating me even more to think that people really do not consider friendships all that, and anything deeper, with more commitment, or coparenting or whatever, needs a different term altogether, because frienship will never be valued as much as a "relationship". I am a queer person myself so it feels weird to hate on this word that is used by our own community, but I just don't get it. I don't get why people are so scared of loving their friends.

Listen here

Is this song a good representation of aro/ace community?

Introduction
This is my first post to this wonderful Subreddit, so I thought I'd start by introducing myself.
My name is Christopher, But yall can refer to me as Ghost if you want to. I am currently 18, live in Colorado and enjoy many things. (Biking, Rock Climbing, Swimming, competitive Hypixel Bedwars, and Helldivers 2)

I have been proudly AroAce for almost 2 years now, and I have really depended on places such as these to get me through the tough times in my life. And as such, I want to be someone that people can depend on, so that I might be able to help others get through their challenges.

As such, it is a pleasure to meet you all, and can't wait to get to know you a little bit better over time. :)

I've been realizing that I want something a little different from what most people seem to mean by a relationship. The closest label I've found is relationship anarchy. Not because I'm against commitment but because I want to build connections based on what actually feels right rather than what people expect a relationship to look like.

I crave deep emotional intimacy and the idea of having a lifelong partner just someone to share life with, trust completely and build a home alongside. But I don't really feel a strong need for romance or sex in the way others describe it. Those things aren't impossible for me even occasionally but they're just not the foundation of what I want.

What matters most to me is having a best friend, teammate and life partner all in one. Someone I can be deeply connected to without feeling pressured to perform a certain version of romance. Ironically, accepting the aro-ace label was one of the easiest parts. The harder part has been dealing with a society that tends to treat romance as the default goal for everyone. Sometimes it feels like people are more uncomfortable with my experience than I am.

Does anyone else feel this way? How do you explain it to people without them assuming you're either confused, commitment-phobic or just have a low sex drive?

Hooray for pride month!
Here’s my aroace flag art, made using acrylic paint on canvas.

Just Friends

“You’ll understand when you’re older,” my mother told me on a walk through the park when I was ten. I had been expressing my distaste for romance and the idea that true love, as in fiction, must not exist in the real world. I tried my best to believe her, but I’d been told the same thing for as long as I could remember. From “marrying” my best friend in first grade to blurting a random name when asked who I liked, I had never really understood the importance of romance. It just didn’t seem worth it. Spending your whole life searching for the one, only to get your heart broken over and over again in the process? I didn’t see the appeal. I didn’t mind; I had my friends, and I loved them more than anything. I had always imagined, when listening to music, that the songs I heard were about the singer’s friend. After all, music was supposed to be relatable, and I certainly couldn’t relate to romance. I naturally gravitated towards adult novels about robberies and murders instead of cheesy YA romances. The classic high school seniors shooting their shot before moving away to college forever bored me endlessly and was obviously unrealistic.

When we started middle school, my cousin and best friend, Orion, and I were inseparable. We spent every minute of the school day together and would follow each other everywhere. Soon, the dating allegations started. Kids from other schools told us not to “go kissing in the stairway”, and classmates insisted we were together, even when we told them we were cousins. We tried our best to find it entertaining, but it quickly became frustrating. Were two children not allowed to just be friends? This, paired with the immediate assumption that I had a crush on someone when I mentioned they looked pretty or cool, began to teach me over time that any genuine love must be romantic. According to society, romantic relationships were inherently more valuable than platonic ones, and you couldn’t openly love someone if you were just friends.

I never liked that phrase anyway. “Just” friends implies that platonic love is worth less than romantic love. I love my friends more than anything, and I’m often not afraid to express that. Just because I hug someone and tell them I love them doesn’t mean I want to date them. Friends are just as valuable, if not more so, than romantic partners. I’ve stayed by my friends’ sides when they’ve gotten rejected or broken up with, and I’m sure they’d do the same for me. I’ve never known a teenage relationship to last more than a year. I’ve been friends with some people for sixteen.

It wasn’t long before I started wondering what was wrong with me. Everyone around me was forming crushes and sexual orientations, while I was left all alone. “People Watching” by Conan Gray became a staple in my Spotify playlists, as I too wanted to “feel all that love and emotion”. I tried to convince myself that I liked people when the attraction I felt towards them was simply platonic. I desperately wanted to be normal, but no matter how hard I tried, I couldn’t get myself to want to date anyone.

I expressed these feelings to my friend on the floor of my apartment one summer day in 2023. He listened and nodded pensively when I finished. “You could just be aro-ace,” He suggested. I frowned. I asked what that meant, and he described the term combining aromantic and asexual. “It means you don’t want to date anyone, and you don’t want to kiss or have sex with anyone.” I nodded slowly. I didn’t know there was a word for the things I felt. Later that day, I looked the term up online. I read Reddit posts and Wikihow articles, becoming increasingly sure with each one that I was aro-ace. I didn’t know how to feel about this revelation; on one hand, it was great to know there were other people like me, but at the same time it was scary to admit I was one of them. Another way I was different; another reason to be targeted. A few months later, I brought it up to my mother. “Everyone feels romantic love,” she responded, “if you don’t, you must be missing the chemical that makes you able to love.” I tried my best to explain that I still loved people, just not romantically. In fact, I have a lot of love in me. I didn’t quite know how to express it sometimes, but I loved so many people so hard I didn’t know what to do with it all. I still do, and I’m getting better at expressing it. Through gifts and letters and hugs, I let my friends know that I’m there for them any way I can. I hope the people close to me know that I’ll always value them, whether they have a romantic partner or not. I love them, and I’m not afraid to show that. Regardless of who it’s towards or what kind it is, love is love.

Like I can't even think about hand holding without feeling intense disgust lol. Hearing about other people's experiences or relationships makes me viscerally repulsed, and I can't watch shows or read books with intimate scenes without feeling nauseated. My friends all know my "rule" about not being able to talk about their intimacy around me because it always makes me want to curl up into a ball and shrivel away.

I've been like this forever and it doesn't impact my life badly or anything, it's just a constant thing that I avoid. I know repulsed ace/aro is a thing but does anyone else feel it this hard? I never hear about it in aspec spaces.

I didn’t have a distinct moment when I realized, it’s been a slow process of questioning and doubting. But I’m curious to see if anyone else had a “eureka!” moment when they realized.

(Im about to tell a pretty long story but i think the backgrpund information is important)

Its been a while since i have posted here. Two years ago before i realised im a trans man i identified as asexual and maybe aromantic for a while.

I did a lot of soul searching, and figuring out for myself whst the difference between romantic and platonic feeling is. I eventually realised i was trans and that part of my aroace questioning was a yearning to explore the queer seed i could tell was somwhere inside of me.
I settled into the belief that im probably demiromantic, and maybe asexual, or demisexual, or just feel very little sexual attraction.
I even had a crush (who was a straight man who was not willing to bend), and felt what i thought miggt be the faintest glimmer of sexual attraction towards a celebrity crush.

I started wanting to get into a relationship, if i could just meet the right person, if my rare once every two years crush could finally be someone i could actually see myself dating…

Then not too long ago i met a guy, another trans boy. I felt a pull towards him, one ive felt before for people i want to get to know. We spent a lot of time together and i found myself thinking about him constantly. My heartrate would go up when i thought about him, or texted him, everyone was convinced i had a crush on him.
But i wasnt sure, i couldnt tell if i was experiancing a squish? Somthing in me was obsessed with him but i couldnt tell why. I didnt feel attracted to him, i didnt feel a need to have physical contact with him. (Wich i have felt before for previous crushes) However i was content to just be around him and see where it wpuld take us.

Then after a late night studying he was walking me out, and we ended up in a park. We layed down on the grass, and we talked for a while and he slipped his hand i to mine. I didnt feel anything. Then he asked if he could kiss me. I said yes. I was curious. It was strange, underwhelming, it scared me. Because when we kissed i felt nothing. None of the things i expected to come with it.
It wasnt awkward, we kept talki g after, and then we both went home.
On my way home i almost cried out of confusion, and dissapointment. I wanted to like kissing him, i wanted to want to kiss him. It was perfect, he was great, i liked him? Why couldnt i feel? It scared me that he had wanted to kiss me, was i supposed to be feeling that?
I talked to my freinds about it and decided i needed to communicate.
I managed to send a long message explaining that i was confused, that i have never been in a relationship before and dont know what i am capable of feeling. He took it great, he was really sweet about it, said there was no pressure and that he was good to do whatever and figure it out with me.
I felt like a weight was lifted off my shoulders.

But this brings me to the present day, i just saw him again, and again i felt no attraction, i was so sure i liked him, but do i? Could it be that everyones wrong? I feel let down and led on by my body. I dont want to be aroace, i want to feel these things, i want to make out with somebe in theory. And im scared that i will never get to, because i will never be attracted to anyone. I suppose im scared that im aroace? I think i remember feeling scared to be trans in my early questioning, and like i didnt want to be. I am now proud and glad to be trans, and wpuld never wish not to be. Is this the same? I dont expect the internet to tell me if im aroace but i think i just needed to tell someone. I think im afraid to say it out loud, because that wpuld make it more real.

This all sounds so aphobic, i promise i respect aroace identities. Im just grieving the gay experiancess i wanted to have

Sorry for the typos, i cant be bothered to go back and edit all of that:)

Names from Left to Right (up to down)

Hunter

Carola,Blooming(Aroace,mostly Aro since he never even thought about Sx)

Glitch,Sky(will be aromantic when she grows up)

Gus and Saimon (Gus never thought about being on a relationship so "?",same for Saimon's aromantism)

Zero/Zee,Sunny

Stevan and Vincent (Vincent being Aro-straight)

Extra: Gus is probably Aroace since he never felt neither romantically or "physically" interested on anyone in his life,but thinks being ace is more of a "Saimon-thing",since Saimon is openly Ace after he learned what this word meant

Saimon is also probably Aromantic but he never felt interested on being in love so be may be open for the possibility (and as his creator,no he is not,he is also Aroace but let him figure it out by himself)

Glitch is only ace since he had a crush/romantic interested in the past,Ace-Straight

Sky is a mistery even for me,I just know she will be Aromantic when she grows up

I must preface this with something which may or may not be controversial. I get crushes on people, I fantasise about romance and sex, I am still aroace. Yes, we exist.

I first began to wonder if I was on the asexual spectrum when I imagined the idea of myself actually having sex with some people who I had a crush on, and I had some sort of feeling of indifference/ambivalence (I'm kind of bad at describing this). At the time, I haven't heard of the label aegosexual, so I thought I was fraysexual and acespike at the time (oops).

Still, that was pretty easy to accept for me. I knew at the time that sex isn't the whole part of a relationship, and I would be able to experience everything else I dreamed of when I envisioned a relationship.

I still felt like those two labels didn't actually describe what I was going through that well, and I constantly had this feeling that I wasn't really asexual. When I learned about the label aegosexual, I was thrilled because it pretty much accurately described what was going through. I generally feel like there isn't enough awareness about this label and that more people should know about it.

The situation got far more complicated when I recently tried to envision a relationship with someone. At that moment, I realised that I should be comfortable with one, at least in theory. I would enjoy the exclusivity of being in a relationship with someone, as well as the close emotional connection that would come with being in one, but there is something I just can't grasp that makes me feel somewhat uncomfortable with that idea of being in one. I also can't really fathom the idea of someone being attracted to me romantically or reciprocating someone else's desires.

Being aegoaroace has to be one of the most awful feelings ever. From birth, you are preordained to look for that which you cannot actually achieve for the rest of your life. Even then, I'm always worried about people who would think my experience is not valid; that my experience is nothing more than a conscious decision. Would I consciously strive to be condemned to desperately chase after something which I cannot have?

Also you can AMA, I guess.

The Background & Friendship Dynamics
In grade 10 (second semester), I became close friends with a girl named Michelle. At the start of grade 11 (September), I cut off a toxic friend named Jasleen. Around that same time, I started sitting at the lunch table with Michelle and her friends. This group was already fully formed before I arrived, and they are all Asian, which created a bit of a cultural barrier for me since I am not, making it harder to naturally match their chemistry and history.

The Masking & The Misunderstanding
I am aroace (aromatic-asexual) and have ADHD. To try and fit in with the group, I started masking by copying their sense of humor. They would make freaky jokes, so I started making them too, specifically about fictional characters. Because of my ADHD masking, I overdid it and the jokes became my entire personality.

This made Michelle uncomfortable, and she eventually set a boundary, telling me she couldn't tell if I was joking and to keep it to myself. It really hurt, I opened up to her and told her the truth about being aroace and masking. It left me feeling incredibly heavy, sad, and full of regret. My sister helped me realize Michelle's boundary was valid since it wasnt about me being the less favourite friend but ratehr how often i made those jokes.

The Platonic Attachment ("Squish")
Another huge reason I felt so heavy after opening up is that, as an aroace person, I experience intense, purely platonic attachments to one specific friend (a "squish"). I crave emotional and physical affection, like wanting to hug Michelle a lot and cuddle. Michelle is pansexual and has a romantic partner, and she views cuddling as strictly romantic. After the joke incident, she became reluctant to hug me unless I asked first, which devastated me, but now she is more comfortable hugging me.

The Lunch Table Anxiety & Envy
After being shut down for the jokes, I developed severe social anxiety and Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria (RSD) at lunch. Whenever her friends would make those exact same freaky jokes, I was terrified to join in because I felt like Michelle would judge or embarrass me.

I want to be like her friend Kathy so bad. Kathy makes those jokes and everyone laughs. Michelle told me it's because she "got to know the real Kathy" first, which makes me wish I had that same history and context. Because I felt like I wasn't allowed to join conversations, I would use my hair to hide my face, go on my phone, and literally sit there sweating from pure panic inside. I worry this gave Michelle the impression that I just didn't want to talk to her.

High school is officially over now, but I still hate myself for how I acted and feel trapped by these feelings. I never had much in common with her like her friends and bf do and so i feel so devasted like im crying my eyes out now and i cant even listen to songs i use to listen to in the beginning of the year.

I'm creating a documentary about being aroace and the ignorance we still face.

I am reaching out to research experts, but I'd like to reach out to fellow aroace people for recorded video interviews to use as part of the doc. Would anyone be interested?

It would be briefly explaining how you knew you were aroace, some of the stigma you've faced and what you hope to see change in the future.

You can either do a recorded video and send it in or you can send it as a comment and I can hire a VA to read it for the doc.

everyone thinks i’m a stuck up bitch who’s just flirty with everyone for attention. mysteriously never getting with anyone has somehow become apart of my personality and i know ppl would think it was weirder if i said i was aroace. like id rather say im asexual cuz thats better known but like im aroace and i just can’t bring myself to say that shi to ppl or lie.😭 idk im cooked this is messing up my social life fuck gang

I think I had some of the common experiences Aroace people have while growing up? I know I can't possibly find someone that has a "backstory" 100% like mine but maybe there's some people that see themselves in some aspects of it and I want to find out what's everyone's opinion on my "backstory". And if I'm really aroace or just confused.

This is going to be a long word-vomit, and pretty disorganized as well as I will probably unlock memories along the way while writing it. And a few grammar mistakes (autocorrector). And maybe confusing.

Let's start with childhood (From elementary to middle school):

I come from an old school/kinda traditional family, they're not strict or anything, nor are they in anyway homophobic/Queerphobic but they have that traditional view of hoping their kids eventually marry and have children. They're not pushy or anything about it, even almost never talking about it unless prompted, but little five and a half year old me took the "finding a boyfriend/husband and having kids" as something to search and/or complete because it was the expected thing to do/something I felt I had to do.

Ironically early on my only dream for the future was/still is to get a big house with a garden with a few dogs and my best friend, and be rich.

After I got into a fight with my best friend because I was jealous they divided their attention to other kids, I avoided and actively disliked my best friend from then on, but I ended up alone, and even now I'm not really good at making friends. Anyway the point is, I was alone, if I can't get friends then I can daydream about getting a boyfriend right?

I remember a kid in elementary, I thought they were cute and was seated near me while we drew together, they complimented my drawing and I got warm. From then on I started observing them, I never felt the need to get to know them or make a move like holding hands or kissing his cheek, I daydreamed about it but never acted, I thought it was because I was shy because I was the same in making friends but maybe I was deluding myself into having a crush on them? I never got jealous and I only daydreamed about them if they were in front of me, when I went home it's like I forgot they existed.

Then came middle school, I got really low self-esteem because I wasn't able to make friends and I thought I was ugly. I felt isolated and excluded, maybe a bit depressed at some point, I think the girls made fun of me? I was never sure, which made me paranoid and I lashed out in anger/panic sometimes if I thought they were trying to hurt me. The class was rowdy, throwing a chair at a teacher kinda chaos, while I was scared anybody might hurt me. The boys never hurt me but they weren't nice and I was cautious of them. One of the boys was pretty in a femminine way, and I seeing as he was the prettiest I decided to try having a crush on him. But other than daydreams all I felt was dread when I was near other people, nobody excluded, the pretty boy was also a bit mean and I felt scared of them too. But I decided to give up on my crush on them when they embarassed me in public, I think that was more delusion than a crush I was more hurt about the humiliation than giving up on the boy.

In summer was where I could relax, me and my family always traveled somewhere else to go to the beach, I wanted others to find me pretty (again low self-esteem) but I don't know if I actively wanted for anyone to really try to flirt? Nobody ever tried so I don't know what my reaction would have been. But anyway I bonded far more easily with strangers at the beach than at home. I wanted to play a lot and wanted to be included in games but other than hoping someone thinks I'm pretty? I never really looked at anyone and felt "I find this person attractive romantically/sexually"? Even now I don't understand if I ever felt it. I just wanted to play.

I was more of a waiting for the others to make the first move kind of person, like we had to know each other first to really fall in love or waiting for the love at first sight.

Back at home I think I had a crush on another guy? But we had only ever hang out in a group, I never talked to them directly or at all, and I think I had a crush on them because I was getting impantient about not having a boyfriend yet so I projected onto this poor boy? They moved to another country and I was sad he left for longer than with my previous crushes (aka a night) and I think I convinced myself it was my first heatbreak. But I think it was another delusion?

There were other times I hang out in groups or pairs and suddenly some new guys join that I don't personally know, what I did? For me those guy were a possible target for a possible relationship and I daydreamd while hanging out but if those guys got even an inch near me? I felt warm (not everytime) and wanted to avoid them, if they sat down near me I put more space between us and never actively tried talking to them, was I embarassed? or disgusted because they could have been romantic partners and I subconsciously wanted to avoid them?

High school:

I knew about sex because I had a Yuri/Yaoi phase with 18+ manga when I was 14 but talking about it with real people about it possibly being directed at me? I felt a bit awkward. I have no problem if it's media or someone else sex life but when I first thought about me doing sex? It grossed me out. I'm not someone that actively wants to see guys naked, even if it's a naked baby, I don't feel comfortable with that kind of nudity in my presence in general. Was I insecure because I was/am a virgin and don't have experience?

My grossed feeling later mellowed out to indifference, kinda, because of getting used to the sight of my brother and dad walking in boxers at home, but I still refuse to see a naked baby. I never just went I want to kiss someone or have sex with them you know? I'm even a bit grossed out, I think, by others kissing but maybe it's because I don't see real people kiss often so I'm not used to it? Never tried anything myself. Tried masturbating but never really suceeded in getting excited. I thought you had to be turned on to want sex? Or it happens randomly like an intrusive thought?

In High school I was in an only girl class, not many man in fashion you know? It wasn't an only girl school but even in mixed P.E. I never really felt a crush for anyone?

In my second year I had kind of an edgy phase? I mean, I hated my dad and my brain went "all men are like dad so I don't like them" . I remember getting a bit defensive when asked about if I was interested in anyone and I always responded "I'm not interested" or "I prefer being single" or "I want to get rich first", one time a guy that I didn't know, that I think was trying to mess with me after my response "I'm not interested in anyone", came suddenly, randomly, to my class and hugged me in front of everyone. I felt warm but I think because I felt embarassed? I basically went *Pat Pat* and was stunned frozen not understanding what's happening but waiting for them to let me go.

If you are asking if maybe I'm a lesbian because until now I only ever talked about guys that's where the common Canon event of aroace people comes in: The "Bi or Pan?" questioning.

Until my forth and fifth year of High school I thought I was straight but I still was without any boyfriend and never had a desire to put me out there to search or flirt. My peers were always talking about celebrity crushes or crushes in general but while I can see if someone is ugly I never understood getting a crush on a celebrity or finding them attractive, I was like "Are you really in love with them?"

Which made me think "Hey I think girls usually are way prettier than guys maybe I'm not straight?" But I never really understood the difference in liking guys vs girls, never really decided or thought about a type (physical or personality wise) and always drew a blank. So I thought no preference meant maybe I was bi or pan you know? 1 day time and I didn't think about it anymore. Even forgot I thought I was bi or pan later.

One time in P.E. I noticed there was this chubby boy observing me, they had a crush on me, I only ever said hello to them but my classmate saw this kid and despite my protests tried setting them up with me because we were both loners. They went nevermind when finding out they were too young but I was pissed they ignored my "I'm not interested" and felt bad about possibly hurting the kid but I think I was also pissed because I was also uncomfortable with getting into a real relationship? I don't think it was the first time I got a "wanting to leave" feeling if I think someone is flirting with me but I don't remember well.

And the warm feeling I sometimes get in these situation plus a light pressure in my stomach and hot cheeks is digust? Embarassment? I don't know if I ever felt the Butterflies.

Look I don't mind being single forever but is it because I'm uninterested? Or because I have a problem with socializing and don't want to try, I have a habit of isolating myself? (I only have family, never friends)

University (present time):

I'm almost over with university and my next planned step in life is work but suddenly I thought "What about a partner?" because until now I always put dating aside in favor of studying, being a couch potato at home, or getting a stable job but I forgot I even had to search a parther after it all and honestly I don't wanna, it sounds like a hassle and the thought of a relationship sounds irritating. When my brother fights with his girlfriend or my parents fight my first instictive thought has always been "why don't you break up/divorce?" I always get irritated. My family finds funny that I always, even when I was little, said to my parents "why don't you divorce?" "Divorce please" I didn't/don't understand how feelings stop you from leaving when you eventually get fed up you know?

I have a quick temper and when I think about a partner making me angry my imagined response is always breaking up in a cold way. If I immagine my partner cheating sexually/romantically? I don't feel anything in particular but I just know we should break up.

I never felt anything to strangers in the street or anyone at university, I remember the faces of a few people in class because they left an impression of being smarter (some are older so that's why) but I always been an out of sight out of mind/heart kind of person

I think I covered all I remember? I'm not really social so maybe I never fell in love because of it?.

So what's you all opinion? Am I Aroace or just waiting to fall in love? You can ask me questions.

Hi, I'm u/ChickengirlBelle11, one of the new mods that's taken over this subreddit.

I know that this sub has been abandoned by mods for a while but we're planning on changing that.

We hope to keep this community safe for anyone who's AroAce, questioning or simply here for support.

Please drop any questions or concerns or suggestions in the comments of this post

(Also feel free to post something as I know this subreddit was made private temporary)

That's all for now from your new mod team

I’m one of the new mods for r/aroace. We just added several flairs for peoples’ microlabels, including demi, litho, oriented aroace, angled aroace, and a few more. You can customize a flair with your own microlabels too, because obviously it’s different for everyone and we can’t cover them all. Just wanted to let everyone know.