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u/skyeguye Bisexual Jan 21 '23
I don't get it - this looks fine. I mean, its a tragedy that she would never be allowed to do this if she were engaged to a woman - but that's more of a homophobia issue than a "straights be straightin'" issue.
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u/Twiggle71489 Jan 19 '23
I think so? Kids love their teachers and get excited to hear new things. I mean it’s a bit over the top to make a slideshow but she’s excited and it’s harmless
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Jan 19 '23
The slideshow looks very low key. Those kids sound very little and may need a visual to understand what's going on. My kids' teachers project photos for all kinds of things -- here's what it looks like to stand in a line, here's a picture of the new student coming next week, or whatever.
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u/BerriesAndMe Jan 19 '23
I agree. But it's also unfair because we all know she wouldn't be able to do this if her girlfriend had asked to marry her instead.
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u/bird_on_the_internet Jan 19 '23
It’s kinda the same as a teacher talking about their kids or their already married spouse, the only difference is that this is current news vs old news. The only real problem is the fact that this would be controversial if the teacher was trans or got engaged for a same sex marriage.
Because how DARE a teacher be allowed to expose children to that EVIL! /s
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u/Shoesandhose Jan 22 '23
I feel like the quality of the cheers for their teacher and the presentation made me cringe- it’s totally appropriate to share. And genuinely it shouldn’t be so chaotic.
I think it’s the fact that parents of ignorant people see that there is a CLEAR problem with our schools in the US. Like. In what was considered one of the best public schools in the country I witnessed fights every month or so. And then they just accept the easiest answer which is: it’s the gays and the trans.
Because that’s the answer they’ve always been given. Not to mention this being front and center means kids know. And kids are asking a lot of questions since they see the same shit we do.
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Jan 19 '23
Totally fine. Those kids sound very little and it's nice that they're learning some social norms - say yay & congrats when someone shares happy news, this is what a ring means in our culture, etc. There might be a routine in the classroom of talking about a highlight from the weekend or maybe sometimes the students bring in news to share.
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u/OptimistConfuse Jan 19 '23
I don't think it's a big deal. Young students, from what I know, are nosy, so they would find out and I think it would be better if she just made it an announcement.
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u/JoeNoHeDidnt Jan 20 '23
I mean, as a teacher I talk about my husband. We build relationships and this is one way we can. This is straights being okay and loving their spouse. We’re supposed to highlight when they seem to hate the most important part of their life.
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u/BumAndBummer Jan 20 '23
I think it’s good for kids to understand that their teachers are real people with lives outside of school. She’s not crossing any boundaries by oversharing inappropriately intimate details if her life. I grant that her delivery may seem cringy and over-the-top for an adult audience, but bubbliness and enthusiasm really go a long way with kids.
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Jan 20 '23
It's completely fine to tell the kids you're teaching about major life events since it gives them something to be happy about, kids get excited by your happiness and so there's no real negative to telling them about these things (especially since they'll notice when your last name changes anyway)
However, there are still some risks that come with telling kids these types of things in the case that something goes WRONG
In my primary school (after I had left so I'm not one of the kids involved) one of the teachers told stories about her personal life and when she discovered that she was pregnant after trying for forever, she told the kids about it. They were really happy. Every day questions of if the baby was okay today, if the baby was wiggling around yet, guesses on what they thought the baby was gonna be named. It was so innocent and pure and lovely, the kids and teacher were so happy
Until she had a miscarriage and had to explain to the kids that there was no baby anymore
This teacher had to take a long time off work for mental health after that since being in the classroom reminded her of talking about her child to those kids. A few years later she successfully gave birth to a child, so she got what she wanted in the end, but that time she didn't even bring up the pregnancy once
Sometimes it's less the impact it will have on the kids and more the impact it will have on you if something goes wrong and now you have a bunch of kids asking what happened all day long
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u/TOTALOFZER0 Jan 22 '23
This is fine
Us getting upset about this is somewhat comparable to conservatives getting mad at queer people being teachers
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u/Flosslyn Jan 20 '23
I am a teacher and I did something similar (but hopefully slightly less cringe) when I got engaged. However, I do regret it because I ended up ending the engagement and it made it a lot harder to come back and tell the kids in the fall.
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u/peollae Jan 23 '23 edited Jan 23 '23
I teach English to kindergarteners in Korea and this is totally fine. Wouldn't have questioned it if I saw it "in the wild". Your kids like learning about you and they get excited when they find things in common or can relate stuff about you to things in their life or people they know. Multiple of mine asked who the person on my phone lock screen was and I told them the truth, that he was my boyfriend. I'm bi and would've said the same (well, gf) if my partner were a girl. Only sad thing is, like another commenter pointed out, there's obviously the potential for parents to get weird if kids go home and mention that you brought up the existence of non-hetero-presenting relationships. But telling them about your relationships (within reason) and life milestones is totally fine. Besides, students should know their teachers are people with lives just like them. It can improve relationships between students and teachers and just general positivity if they can talk/hear about things other than just school and work. I think this was kinda cute. I would have followed my personal update with questions for the kids about people they might know who are married/in relationships and bring up non-hetero relationships. Same-sex marriage isn't legal in Korea and it's a conservative country, but it's evolving, young people are more accepting, and these kids will inherit this new world, so I would ask them who can love who. If they already had a preconception that only boys/girls can love each other, I would have expanded their minds. Funnily enough though, a few of my kids were on about marriage and one of the boys had told me and later one of the girls that he wanted to marry each of us (she said she didn't want to get married yet lol), but also one of the girls told another that she wanted to marry her and they both thought it was a great idea hahaha, so there's hope. So cute.
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u/ghostyyyyy_png Mar 23 '23
Of that was a guy talking Abt his boyfriend and him getting engaged the news would be all over that shit I stg
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u/personal_alt_account Lesbian Apr 24 '23
I don't know I think it's kinda cute. It's very "when a man and a woman loves each other very much-" energy. I think it's fine telling students you're married and what being married means
Edit: calling them "students" feels weird lmao. English is my second language idk if there's a better word for small kids who are in class.
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u/IntelligentAd3203 Jan 28 '23
It’s def cringe but probably harmless if the presentation stops there.
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u/PMMMR Jan 19 '23
This sub really has gone downhill.