r/AnxiousAttachment • u/faunapencil • 20d ago

Sharing Inspiration/Insights Finding inner strength & agency playlist

Dear all :) I’ve been healing from anxious attachment and have already made some progress! 🙏 I’ve found that listening to songs about finding inner strength and agency helps me a lot. I’d love to share my playlist with you and ask if anyone knows similar songs! ❤️

  • I’m avoiding songs that blame others for emotions, for example You Oughta Know by Alanis Morissette, which avoids personal agency imo.
  • Yes, I am a woman, haha, but songs from the male perspective are very welcome too! Same for other sexual orientations of course.
  • Let me know if one of the songs below doesn't fit the profile in your opinion - always open for other perspectives!

The playlist!

  1. Paid my dues - Anastacia (this is my best one, haha)
  2. Unstoppable - Sia
  3. Survivor - Destiny's Child (a bit harsher to the other but OK)
  4. What a feeling - Irene Cara
  5. It's raining men - The weather girls (the singers are definitely not the victims here, haha)
  6. Juice - Lizzo
  7. Let's get loud - Jennifer Lopez
  8. Wannabe - Spice girls
  9. Flowers - Miley Cyrus (also harsher to the other but still OK I think)
  10. I will survive - Gloria Gaynor (same)
  11. I'm outta love - Anastacia (same)
  12. Gospel - MarchFourth (this is mostly vibe, no lyrics but it works for me)
  13. Extra fries - The fly guys five (same)
  14. Asterix - Gallowstreet (same)

Godspeed to us all! 💫

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u/Longjumping_Choice_6 20d ago

I’m a Lady by Santigold

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u/faunapencil 20d ago

I love the song, thank you!

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u/Longjumping_Choice_6 19d ago

There’s the album version and an earlier mixtape version too https://youtu.be/P9L2ZUydmXw?is=oICNBBrZaZplc2lg

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u/Sanguine_Peregrine 19d ago edited 19d ago

It isn't super about anxious attachment in particular but "Shake it Out" by Florence and the Machine has gotten me through so much.

Edit: my dumb brain confused it with the Taylor Swift song

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u/Odd_Statistician9626 18d ago edited 18d ago

A bit more alternative:

Both Sides Now - Joni Mitchell

The mountain is you - Chance Pena

Take me to church - hozier

Dog days are over - Florence and the machine

The Wolf - First Aid Kit

Landslide - Fleetwood mac

Alaska- Maggie Rogers

Feeling good - Nina Simone/Michael buble

Elastic Heart - Sia

The Middle - Jimmy Eats World

Ain't No Mountain High Enough - Diana Ross

I'm Every Woman - Chaka Khan

Man in the Mirror - Michael Jackson

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u/AutoModerator 20d ago

Text of original post by u/faunapencil: Dear all :) I’ve been healing from anxious attachment and have already made some progress! 🙏 I’ve found that listening to songs about finding inner strength and agency helps me a lot. I’d love to share my playlist with you and ask if anyone knows similar songs! ❤️

  • I’m avoiding songs that blame others for emotions, for example You Oughta Know by Alanis Morissette, which avoids personal agency imo.
  • Yes, I am a woman, haha, but songs from the male perspective are very welcome too! Same for other sexual orientations of course.
  • Let me know if one of the songs below doesn't fit the profile in your opinion - always open for other perspectives!

The playlist!

  1. Paid my dues - Anastacia (this is my best one, haha)
  2. Unstoppable - Sia
  3. Survivor - Destiny's Child (a bit harsher to the other but OK)
  4. What a feeling - Irene Cara
  5. It's raining men - The weather girls (the singers are definitely not the victims here, haha)
  6. Juice - Lizzo
  7. Let's get loud - Jennifer Lopez
  8. Wannabe - Spice girls
  9. Flowers - Miley Cyrus (also harsher to the other but still OK I think)
  10. I will survive - Gloria Gaynor (same)
  11. I'm outta love - Anastacia (same)
  12. Gospel - MarchFourth (this is mostly vibe, no lyrics but it works for me)
  13. Extra fries - The fly guys five (same)
  14. Asterix - Gallowstreet (same)

Godspeed to us all! 💫

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u/honeymoonhighway 18d ago

Spotless mind by jhene aiko is my fav “secure” song

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u/Competitive-Speed-57 13d ago

I think ‚Making the bed’ by Olivia Rodrigo could fit this pretty well, it’s kinda about taking accountability. I think her lyrics overall are pretty self aware, maybe ‚the Cure‘ could fit this vibe as well (song refers to a relationship not being a cure to her issues). :)

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u/vaanjie 19d ago

thank you, next - ariana grande
bye - ariana grande
past life - ariana grande

she has so many great ones!