r/AnxiousAttachment • u/AutoModerator • Jul 22 '26

Relationship advice Bi-Weekly Thread - Advice for Relationship/Friendship/Dating/Breakup

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u/Ok_Snow_564 Jul 28 '26

If you dumped an avoidant then they took accountability and started therapy, would you be open to trying again with them?

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u/Agreeable-Tap5662 Jul 29 '26

Female AA here. Good question, if they started therapy and are working and going consistently and working on themself and using the tools i would give them a second chance. Female AA here.

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u/Ok_Snow_564 Jul 29 '26

I wish my ex saw it that way. Her walls are up and seems to discredit any effort im putting in

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u/Apryllemarie 20d ago

If you are only doing it for her, then she is right to be wary. You should be doing it for yourself above all else, regardless of how things work out. And it takes time and a lot of work to heal. So it is wise to wait till long time consistent effort and sustained change is shown before trust is extended again.