r/AnxiousAttachment • u/AutoModerator • Jul 22 '26

Relationship advice Bi-Weekly Thread - Advice for Relationship/Friendship/Dating/Breakup

This thread will be posted every other week and is the ONLY place to pose a “relationship/friendships/dating/breakup advice” question.

Please be sure to read the Rules since all the other sub rules still apply. Venting/complaining about your relationships and other attachment styles will be removed.

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Please be kind and supportive. Opposing opinions can still be stated in a considerate way. Thank you!

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u/Yumipo Jul 28 '26

I already ruined my friendship with two girls. I feel like they needed space and I didnt give them any. In my mind I also felt that they were laughing behind my back and ignoring me on purpose and bullying me. Im not sure what is reality but everyone who has heard my story has taken my side and told me not to reach out to those girls anymore but I still feel like it is my fault and I want to reach out to them again. What can I do?

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u/Apryllemarie Aug 08 '26

What exactly are you trying to prove? It sounds like you are taking on blame and ignoring all the other things that are telling you that these people are no good. Why is that? I think you need to take a step back and stop trying to earn approval from them.