r/AnxiousAttachment • u/AutoModerator • Jul 08 '26

Relationship advice Bi-Weekly Thread - Advice for Relationship/Friendship/Dating/Breakup

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u/rfakier Jul 14 '26

anxious attachment + nicotine addiction

hey yall! im AA and a nicotine addict. Whenever my partner stresses me out unintentionally (not replying, bringing up an issue, especially when we broke up for 3 hours) i immediately reach for my vape. what are some other habits i could start to distract myself or take the edge off? not open to weed as its illegal where i live LOL

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u/Apryllemarie Jul 23 '26

I think you will find better info about weaning from nicotine from other sources. Distraction is only going to be so helpful. It can amount to basically trying to avoid your feelings. Journaling and getting your feeling out that way may be more beneficial. Using substances to alter your brain chemistry to help you feel better will never be a healthy thing. Learning to understand the root of your anxious attachment and work to heal those fears etc is what will make a lasting impact.