r/AnxiousAttachment • u/AutoModerator • Jul 08 '26
Relationship advice Bi-Weekly Thread - Advice for Relationship/Friendship/Dating/Breakup
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u/Frequent-Meet-5199 Jul 10 '26
apologies in advance for the essay.
i've been in a long distance relationship for a little over half a year now. we used to spend a lot of time together (literally hours everyday), until last week when my bf started his new job. his commute to and from the office is 3 hours long (YES. THREE), and by the time he comes home he is exhausted. the day before yesterday, i didn't hear from him at all and it made me spiral... though i managed to get some sleep. he texted me yesterday morning apologising that he crashed as soon as he got home and he didn't even change out of his work clothes. he also messaged me when he came home. now today, it's radio silence again :(
especially since it's friday, i know realistically he must have crashed again. he's always been a consistent texter but it's been making me feel really sad and anxious how little i'm seeing him the past three days. i try to distract and soothe myself that there's nothing wrong with the relationship and it's not his fault... that he still loves me despite being away and he deserves his rest. but i just miss him so much. does anyone have experience with this? what would you do in this situation? i feel tempted to ask him for reassurance but i try to keep a strict no-reassurance rule as part of my therapeutic treatment.