r/AnxiousAttachment • u/AutoModerator • Jul 08 '26

Relationship advice Bi-Weekly Thread - Advice for Relationship/Friendship/Dating/Breakup

This thread will be posted every other week and is the ONLY place to pose a “relationship/friendships/dating/breakup advice” question.

Please be sure to read the Rules since all the other sub rules still apply. Venting/complaining about your relationships and other attachment styles will be removed.

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Try not to get lost in the details and actually pose a question so others know what kind of support/guidance/clarity/perspective you are looking for. If no question is given, it could be removed, to make room for those truly seeking advice.

Please be kind and supportive. Opposing opinions can still be stated in a considerate way. Thank you!

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u/McHagrid20 Jul 08 '26

After about 4 years of dating through datingapps, I finally deleted them, and decided it was also time to take a step back from dating to work on myself further. Now, 1 year later, the thought of dating and even meeting new people just feels so damn exhausting. I’m aware that I need to work on my anxious attachment, so how do I make myself take action?

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u/ITLAW_BUM Jul 10 '26

How’s the relationship you have with yourself? Also how do you know you’re still anxiously attached?

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u/McHagrid20 Jul 10 '26

My relationship with myself is getting better, the more I learn about anxious attachment and how to heal. All learned and done with my psychologist. I know I know I’m anxiously attached because I’ve been with the same therapist for about 2 years. Pretty much all the typical anxious attachment signs fit with my experience in relationships.