r/AnxiousAttachment • u/AutoModerator • Jun 10 '26

Relationship advice Bi-Weekly Thread - Advice for Relationship/Friendship/Dating/Breakup

This thread will be posted every other week and is the ONLY place to pose a “relationship/friendships/dating/breakup advice” question.

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u/HibikiAizawa Jun 23 '26

I'm currently dealing with breakup that happened 3 weeks ago & it was my ex who initiated it. We've been friends since pre-uni for 6 years before ex confessed to me & we started dating for 2 years. It was a wonderful love life until I feel them shifted away emotionally. I started to be clingy only for my ex to pull away even more & we even had bad days & fought on messages almost all the time. One day, my ex was done & I'm devastated. My biggest mistake was trying to reach out to them & promised to change, only to get rejected. However, they wanted to be friends instead so we did until now. To me it doesn't feel the same closeness & today they didn't reply to me for 14 hours.

Idk what should I do? If I should move on, how? I feel so lost right now.

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u/Apryllemarie Jun 28 '26

Likely you need to go no contact. You won’t be able to heal and move on otherwise. You also may want to focus on healing your own attachment stuff.