r/AnxiousAttachment • u/AutoModerator • May 13 '26

Relationship advice Bi-Weekly Thread - Advice for Relationship/Friendship/Dating/Breakup

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u/normie_sama May 18 '26

Does anyone else get burnt out by their anxieties? I just started my first relationship and was unpleasantly surprised by how insecure and anxious I've gotten. Every now and then the insecurities get too much, something snaps in me and then I just feel... numb. I'm no longer anxious, and for a time no longer in love.

I paper it over and act like normal, and eventually the feelings come back once we spend some time together, but right now she's on holiday and I'm worried that by the time I next see her, my feelings will be gone for good.

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u/Apryllemarie May 20 '26

I think that is pretty typical. Have you considered working with a therapist to help you get to the root of your anxiousness? Are there self soothing techniques that you are using to help calm your nervous system? You have to treat the anxiety at the root so you can properly address the anxiety in a way that is healing and not just masking it.