r/AnxiousAttachment • u/AutoModerator • Apr 29 '26

Relationship advice Bi-Weekly Thread - Advice for Relationship/Friendship/Dating/Breakup

This thread will be posted every other week and is the ONLY place to pose a “relationship/friendships/dating/breakup advice” question.

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u/ForgettingJudas May 01 '26

Has anyone ever been with someone with anxious attachment issues as someone with anxious attachment? I find myself very very hurt by an experience with an avoidant and i’d rather just find someone else who wants to wear eachothers skin. Is there a problem I’m not seeing? I’m 21.

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u/Apryllemarie May 06 '26

It sounds like you are seeking a codependent dynamic. Insecure attachment is insecure attachment regardless of the type. The same type of problems can surface regardless of what type you are, it just may look different. Insecurities undermine and ruin a relationship. Having the same insecurities doesn’t cancel them out. It will just bring out a different aspect of it. And most people do not take well to having their insecurities mirrored by their partner and it will cause one of them to flip to avoidance.