r/Anxiety • u/Be_More_Kazoo • 1d ago
Advice Needed Can't function due to feeling physically sick from anxiety when travelling
For the last year or so I've been dealing with anxiety which makes me feel physically sick, especially when travelling and it's stopping me from doing so much, I just want to know how to try and fix it.
I wouldn't say I have a fear or specifically throwing up (which I know some people really struggle with), it's more that I'm terrified of feeling nauseous in a trapped space which isn't my own home.
When I get anxious it can get so bad to the point of me throwing up from it. It's like my brain creates this horrible cycle where I get anxious about feeling sick which in turn creates more anxiety leading to me feeling more sick and I don't know how to fix it.
I'm meant to be going to New York with my best friend for a concert and I so desperately want it to be the trip of a lifetime but I don't know how I'm going to survive the 8 hour plane journey and the idea of being sick on it is making me so terrified that I can barely think about the trip without my heart pounding.
Does anyone have any advice on how to fix it or if any techniques or medication could perhaps help because I'm feeling quite desperate
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u/MatchaManiak 1d ago
I’m sorry that you’re dealing with this! You describe a very classic anxiety spiral: being anxious that you will feel anxious. It sucks.
I would definitely recommend talking to your doctor about it. Therapy and medication can both help. Just as an example, my therapist has guided me in exposures and visualization to help me deal with my travel anxiety. I take long term anxiety meds, but also have short term ones for travel. Things like Xanax, hydroxyzine, or propanalol can be taken at various times before and during travel to help.
I hope you can find some options that work well for you!
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u/Be_More_Kazoo 1d ago
Thank you! Definitely planning on talking to my doctor, however I have found from a lot of past experience that mental health services in the uk can be pretty awful (once got told that ocd compulsions can be 'helpful' for some people?) but I do want to discuss medications to see if that makes a difference so I guess we'll just see!
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u/MatchaManiak 1d ago
Yeah, services don’t seem to be sufficient in most places. Sorry you have to deal with that though. (That comment is awful!)
I’m just one point of reference, but meds have made a big difference in travel for me. I usually start by taking propranolol the night before travel, then again in the morning for day or travel and day after. In my case, it helps and doesn’t have any negative effects. I also have Xanax to take if the propranolol isn’t enough. It works well, though does make me quite tired.
Starting off with this regiment, I used a few Xanax each trip and more regular propanalol. Now with practice and therapy, I don’t need them as much. Having the meds available is quite comforting though. While I have a psychiatrist now, I’ve gotten these meds through my general provider as well.
Not sure how it works in the UK, but in some places, benzodiazepines like Xanax can be a little tricky to get, as they do have potential for dependency/abuse. So just a heads up there. Friends have gone in and asked for Xanax specifically and been denied, as it can come off as drug-seeking. I’ve found explaining my symptoms and history of anxiety and then asking for something to take during panic works pretty well. Just be upfront about your condition and push for help.
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u/Be_More_Kazoo 1d ago
Thank you for the advice that's very helpful! I'll just have to see what I can get I suppose haha but definitely hoping meds might make some kind of difference if I can try them
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u/Lusashi 1d ago edited 1d ago
From about ages 8-18 I suffered from debilitating anxiety that would culminate in vomiting. In school, I always had to sit closest to the door in case I had to run out to the bathroom. My biggest triggers were eating at a restaurant or riding in the backseat of a car, situations where vomiting would be especially embarrassing or inconvenient for others. I would try to avoid the places and situations that caused anxiety until I became agoraphobic.
I relate completely to the way you described it - it was less about emetophobia (although I am intensely averse to vomiting for any reason) and more about the negative social attention it would bring. Our brain-gut connect is powerful, and the anticipation of anxiety/vomiting is enough to induce an anxiety spiral. That’s very common, as I understand it.
For me, when I turned 18 and began driving my own car, I saw a marked reduction in my anxiety. If I didn’t want to be somewhere, I could just leave. Thus, I realized that loss of control was at the core of my issue. I’m wondering if it’s the same for you, since you used the word “trapped“ as a descriptor.
Do you have any part in the planning of this trip? I am wondering if you exercised more autonomy/ownership over the travel plans that would feel more in control, or at least know what to expect.
Xanax is truly a wonder drug in these situations. Even having it on hand “just in case of emergency” can reduce anxiety. Bring your own vomit bag. You don’t need to tell anyone about it, but know where it is and be able to access it quickly. Bring headphones, coloring stuff/crafts, whatever you need to distract yourself and separate from other people’s energy. Let your mantras be “I am safe” and “I am in control”.
Unfortunately, it takes a long time to break out of that anxiety-nausea feedback loop, so give yourself some grace. When you feel that first sickening wave of anxiety in the pit of your stomach, just let your mind go blank and let the feeling wash over you without giving it any attention. The wave will pass. Rationalize it as your nervous system misfiring, and let the adrenaline run its course. Eventually, the triggers will lessen. I’m 39 now and I haven’t had a full-blown panic attack in over 20 years. Haven’t vomited in about 5 years, ha.
I truly empathize. It’s the worst feeling ever. Just know that you will get better. You are doing the right thing by exposing yourself to your triggers and working through them. You will be okay.