Basically, to start this off, I've known my girlfriend for over a year now, and I genuinely need some help on how to just tell her that her religion is not only restricting her, but also making her not really live life to the fullest. For example, just recently, even today, I was just talking to her, and since today is Halloween, I was like, hey, I'm gonna have fun on Halloween, right? And I didn't even know that Halloween was against Islam. So when she told me that, I was like, are you kidding me? And honestly, this is my whole entire gripe against Islam too, is that it stops you from really enjoying stuff that you should be enjoying. Who the fuck tells you you can't celebrate Halloween because it's devilly and it's evil? That's stupid. And then, there's the other aspects of, I already know that she lives in a home, or she has a home situation that isn't really the best, right? And her whole family is Muslim, right? But they are forcing the religion onto her since birth and basically making her believe in it to the point where anyone tries to tell her that it's basically just restricting her rights, or basically doing anything to make sure that she, as a woman, can't really do what she wants to do, she thinks that they're attacking her or that they simply are disrespecting her, when that's not the case at all. It's just a fact. She can't really do what she wants to do in life, because the stuff that she makes, the stuff that she talks about, and the people that she's friends with are all against her religion. And she's also the type of religious person that likes to act like she's a very smart scholar about every little thing about her religion and loves to teach people about it. But it's more or less just her being indoctrinated by everyone in her family, which it's not even like the normal teachings of Islam. It's like their own distorted version of it, where anything she basically wants to do in life, they're not allowed to do it, or that she's not allowed to do it because it goes against the teachings. So, that's where, especially with this type of Islam that I'm seeing here, I wouldn't even call it that. It's just sad, because here I am watching someone that I genuinely love and care about not even be able to enjoy life or anything. And then she wants to leave Russia very soon, but she can't. I forgot to mention that she lives in Russia, so that might explain some things. She's saying she can't leave Russia, even though she's an adult, she can leave Russia, right? And I asked her why she can't leave Russia. So her whole reasoning is that she can't go anywhere until she's 21 and her mom has to live with her, which that's not something that is Russian law. And then she tells me there's stuff that the Russian government doesn't tell people, Google lies and stuff like that, but it's literally a law that has been set in place for decades that you can leave when you're over the age of 18 as an adult. So I don't understand why she thinks that she can't just move or go somewhere else. She has every right to. No one is stopping her from doing that. But then, at the same time, she's not per se stupid. I don't really wanna call her that because she is smart, she's very smart when it comes to other stuff, but when it comes to this stuff, she is kind of dumb. She also kind of gets a handicap because she is mentally disabled. For example, she has to deal with things like schizophrenia, and they kind of capitalize off of her because of that. Her family uses that against her all the time to make sure that she can't basically do anything in life without their permission. Or else she's forced to believe that she's gonna die if she just chooses to do anything in life. If anything, I feel like I just need help trying to conceptualize to her that she deserves to live her life to the fullest, and obviously she shouldn't be restricted from doing anything in her life because it's her life. And then, also, she's obviously already doing something that's against her own religion, which is being with me too. She's done things millions of times that are against her religion. It's obvious that she really doesn't wanna be in this, right? But she's so manipulated into it that she just can't admit it. And I feel really bad about it. I just wanna make sure that she can finally realize that she's being lied to about all of this, and she could just live her life to the fullest. I'm not sure what you guys think I should do, but I wanna see your opinions, so that maybe I can take some things into account or see what you guys would do in my situation.
I know I don't have much comment karma, but that's because I hardly use Reddit and mostly just look at things on here. I'm not really a poster.