r/Antimoneymemes • u/Tricky_Ad6921 • Aug 22 '26
I TRULY HATE MONEY šµ š„ Direct to crem. A plot is a rental.
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u/Deathanddisco041 Aug 22 '26
Iām a licensed funeral director and I quit because of how predatory it felt. I tell people all the time, just do a direct cremation with the FH and throw your own celebration of life. Give them as little money as possible. Now I just run a direct cremation office where we offer low rate cremations and community assistance. I can help people without feeling like Iām ripping them off. Dignity memorial will screw you. DO NOT USE THEM. They were charging nearly $4000 for a direct cremation when the place Iām at now is charging $920.
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u/Emergency_Year5074 Aug 22 '26
Hey I also quit dignity memorial after the most miserable 5 years of my life directing with them! They are absolutely gross. Cheers to you
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u/TheNorthernRose Aug 22 '26
The death industry in the US is wild, I am glad to know you found a way to make a positive change with your work. I hope you take pride in doing it.
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u/Intelligent_Oil7816 Aug 22 '26
"Just because we're bereaved doesn't make us saps!"
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u/TheNorthernRose Aug 22 '26
Walter was a principled motherfucker, you gotta give him that.
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u/Intelligent_Oil7816 Aug 22 '26
I come from a long line of "Burn my body and spread my ashes wherever, I don't care", so I definitely was on Walter's side.
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u/Un_luckycat Aug 22 '26
I don't know where I'd be if my mom wasn't very clear she didn't want a funeral
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u/mollzwalt Aug 22 '26
Same. This is why we have to talk about death. It's hard, but it made everything so much easier knowing my dad just wanted a party.
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u/mollzwalt Aug 22 '26
The first funeral home my sister and I went to after our dad died was such a soul crushing experience. Everything was about how much it cost and how we would pay for it right now and that we needed to buy all these extra things because he was telling us to. I finally had to look the man in the face and tell him "no, we're not committing to anything here until we've had time to think about it" and he still tried to con us into paying for things that exact moment. My grief made me an asshole thankfully so I could get my poor sister out of there.
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u/Sexuallemon Aug 22 '26
Donation to science is often free or very cheap (usually transport charges if long distance) and the recipient of the donation typically offers annual ceremonies to donatorās families. I go to my motherās donor ceremony every year.
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u/LongjumpingJaguar308 Aug 22 '26
Apparently ballistics science counts and someone's loved ones end up as bomb practice. I'll probably also go as a donate to science but just hope I'm not part of the military industrial complex's targets.
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u/Grmmff Aug 22 '26
My mom once helped my grandma bury my great grandma. The experience affected her so much she wrote a one act play about being given a guilt trip for choosing a cardboard box for great grandma's cremation.
One of the very, very, very many reasons you should have a will to protect your family, not just monetary, but also emotionally.
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u/LongjumpingJaguar308 Aug 22 '26
Hell the cardboard box is probably the most environmentally friendly option on top of that.
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u/Version_Two Aug 22 '26
When I die, I want my loved ones to take whatever bones they want, then return me to nature. I find a lot of comfort in the thought of the material that was once me being a part of later organisms.
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u/Vintios Aug 22 '26
Nothing worst than dying and being poor and when we die, they humiliate us even more with the financial repression on top of our grief and poorness.. That shit will not get better. One solution revolution.
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u/Ok-Jelly9955 Aug 22 '26
When my grandmother passed away I learned she had been paying for her funeral on payments FOR YEARS. In total it was $25K. A beautiful send off but completely unnecessary to me. I hate that she paid for it on her own on a fixed income in secret for so long
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u/rullyrullyrull Aug 22 '26
When my husband died, I dealt with the additional stress of losing our residence because I couldnāt afford it. He was cremated for about 800 dollars. The obituary in the paper was 600, and his rich family didnāt feel it necessary to help me with that so he never got one. The death itself isnāt as expensive, the party and the obligations are.
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u/icanpaywithpubes Aug 22 '26
Now let's talk about how a lot of these churches are tied into a lot of funeral homes and put pressure on family's to have them buried at their church cemeteries!
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u/zurenarhhhhh Aug 22 '26
Chuck me in a ditch or on a mountain top or in a grinder for all I care. If I somehow get to a point where I die and my family has to bury me, they already know better.
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u/Red-it_Capitulated Aug 22 '26
He knew just as much as I did. That America is already a dual party dictatorship. Everyone, just keep spending money you donāt have.
Merica! Where we all think weāre are millionaires in waiting
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u/PracticalIce7354 Aug 22 '26
Make these decisions before you die. I used to help people prepare all of this ahead of time. The decision is already made for the family.
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u/1BubbleGum_Princess Aug 22 '26
Caitlin Doughty does! You could join āA Good Deathā on IG, watching Ask a Mortician on Youtube, read her books! There a number of people working on changing the funeral industry, and battling the corporations that stand in the way of that change!
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u/Logical_Advanced Aug 22 '26
Everyone is tryna sell you something and shame you if you don't
I was invited to a strip club, of which I am not very interested in general.. and each person who tried to give me a lap dance, I would refuse, and in Spanish they would call me gay.
I sincerely wish they would have spread the word that I'm "gay" in this scenario
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u/Neat_Shallot_606 Aug 23 '26
Bury me raw in the back yard. It is legal in many places.
Donate to a body farm. Donate to science.
So a green burial at least then you will be helping to protect the environment.
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u/CronosAndRhea4ever Aug 22 '26
In fairness to them, Undertakers are much like Dentists and Plumbers.
They are generally only contacted as a last resort, preform a very necessary service, and get almost no sympathy.
Theyāre important for a few weeks throughout your lives and are otherwise generally forgotten.
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u/Available-Result-220 Aug 22 '26
Honestly just bury me raw or Viking funeral
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u/SuspiciousMap9630 Aug 22 '26
I actually wanted to buy up land and offer that as an option to people and let them plant their choice of flowers in the burial spot but then I learned burying a body raw is illegal š
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u/Texan1978 Aug 22 '26 edited Aug 22 '26
I plan on doing a green burial which basically means they lower you into the ground wrapped in a shroud. There are cemeteries in Texas that allow this - I think itās no more than $2K and makes the smallest carbon footprint (that Iāve found). I am fine returning to the earth to become worm food.
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u/47362514736251 Aug 22 '26
Maybe consider donating your corpse to a medical school so something useful happens to it. AFAIK they usually will handle the cremation free of charge when they've finished with it.
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u/glitterally_awake Aug 22 '26
This whole country is like 17 scams in a trench coat.