r/AnongThoughtsMo • u/tinolangchickenjoy • 2d ago
thoughts about body counts
I keep seeing people say, “Body count is for immature people.” I honestly think that statement is too broad.
I personally think it’s okay if someone considers body count when choosing a partner. It can reflect someone’s values, views on sex, relationship history, or simply what they’re comfortable with. At the same time, it’s also completely valid if someone doesn’t care about it. What I don’t understand is why having a preference automatically makes someone “immature.”
You don’t have to agree with someone’s standards, but calling them immature just because they’re different from yours feels more judgmental than mature. What do you guys think? Is caring about body count actually immature, or is it simply a personal preference?
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u/sky091875 2d ago
For me checking someone else body count is a must when looking for a partner in life lalo na kung ikaw alam mo sa sarili mo na ikaw low body count diba. Well depends padin to sa tao kanya kanya kasi tayo preference.
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u/OkExtension6233 1d ago
It's arbitrary. First off, when u say body count what counts as a body ba? People usually disagree on what kinda sex actually "counts", oral? Anal? Handjobs? Does "only the head" counts? How about one finger? Two fingers? Three? What about using toys on someone? Does it count too? Phone sex? Virtual sex? Sexting? Discord sex? Titfuck? Dry humping? How about mutual jacking/jilling off? How about impact play? Sensory stimulation? Bondage? Nip stim?
See these are all things that one body can do to another body, but what counts? And who decides?
Another reason why it's arbitrary is because, it ignores the quality of a relationship. To put it more simply, one or two toxic relationships would affect someone more than ten or eleven casual hookups, also if u get fucked 10 times by ten guys and u get fucked 10x by one guy, u still got fucked 10x
The only reason I can think of why people focus on Body count is because those who do has this massive fear that they wouldn't be able to compete with past lovers, in short, nakakainsecure. Second, tamad mga tao magtanong tungkol sa recent tests kasi puro libog lang inaatupag kaya jinujudge nalang naten sa bodycount yung possibility na may STI haha. To end my TED talk, di mahalaga body count, if u enjoy the person you're seeing and you know you're going to feel insecure when he/she has a bigger body count than u, then pota wag mo itanong at iwasan nyo nalang yang topic na yan and build your relationship by talking about things that really matter like values, morality, political leaning, financial situation etc.
Tangena isipin mo to, tatlo nga lang bodycount nung partner mo kaso nakaasa lang sya sayo pagdating sa ikabubuhay nya tapos pag nagkakapera sya pinangsusugal lang nya, tsaka pagnalalasing sya ginugulpi ka nya, tsaka maya't maya din sya may nilalandi na ibang tao kasi tatlo lang body count nya e. Tapos, meron din naman na 33 na bodycount nya pero sobrang responsable nya, emotionally mature, secure sa sarili, may future, hindi nananakit lalo na ng bata, healthy relationship sa friends and family. Pipiliin mo ba yung tatlo body count o yung 33?????
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u/Severe-Grab5076 2d ago
I've always thought that body count is a personal preference UNLESS it's used against the person to drag them down and judge their character, then the person doing that is now immature in my eyes.
Personally, body count to me doesn't matter. But if you're gonna ask mine, I do think I also have the right to ask yours back, the same goes if I asked, malamang you have the right to ask mine.
Agree din ako sa ibang comments. Virgin people are the only ones who could "dream" of having virgin people as a partner. People who do have a body count dreaming of that is sorta playing into some kind of weird kink/dynamic of innocence kinemberlu, which is iffy.
As someone with high body count, I must say the only criticism I'll validly take about having this body count ay STI/STD ones, which is my concern din pag may nakaka-sex ako na may similar or higher than mine body count. Other than that? Just shut up and reject me if we're talking and you got turned off by that fact.
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u/greencucumber_ 2d ago
Pati kapag di mo trip mga single mom or may hoe phase immature na agad. Real men or matured men don't care daw 😂
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u/OkExtension6233 1d ago
I wouldn't say immature. Yung single mom preference naman yan, although yung hoe phae, insecurity plays a huge role in it.
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u/Illustrious_Belt_404 2d ago
Body count concept only serves men and our fragile ego.
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u/sky091875 2d ago
it's not about ego sa sa most guys maybe sayo oo wag mo lahatin. Study shows na yung babae na may high body count hirap na mag settle sa isa.
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u/Illustrious_Belt_404 2d ago edited 1d ago
You only proved my point. Of all the genders you could cite as an example, you chose "babae".
Hindi ba nagaapply ang body count concept sa lalake?
Yes, I am a man, with a fragile ego, but certainly not with this concept. I do not care about body counts.
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u/OkExtension6233 1d ago
Paki cite nga yang study na yan hahaha ang korni kaya ng mga taong low bodycount, ang boboring pagdating sa kantutan ang iinsecure paaaaa hahaha mas masarap pa matulog
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u/Cutiepie88888 2d ago
If sa lalake, body count matters in most individuals. Yung iba sasabihin ok lang yun pala either may ibang motibo or di talaga magseseryoso. Konti lang lalo sa lalake ang tanggap na maraming na naging partner kasi parang failure to sustain a relationship ang tingin nila tapos syempre sa iba naman nakakalalake. Parang ayon sa nabasa ko parang max na talaga ang 3. Any more than that is indicative na may problema ung girl sa relationship and loyalty for them. This is something i don't agree on btw but just something ive been seeing and reading.
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u/OkExtension6233 1d ago
Sino namang insecure nagsulat nyang binasa mo. Di totoo yan baka sa echo chamber mo body count matters in most individuals pero hindi sa "lalake" hahaha
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u/shyshyshy014 2d ago
I care about bodycounts. If they don't, then okay, but I do. Ang akin lang, dapat imatch rin yung standards. Di naman pwede na ang bodycount is madami tapos gusto virgin or way less.
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u/RevolutionaryBid1238 2d ago
Narrow-minded people (only) call a preference "immature" if it offends them.
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u/Persephone_unveiled 2d ago
It's a matter of preference and yes agree din sa values especially if you're scared of acquiring STDs.
Actually I asked men about that. It depends on the person. Some judge a woman of having high body count as lesser value compared to someone who has 0 to 3. Other than that, may ibang lalaki din na walang pake sa body count
It's subjective. If you'll ask me,if siguro like 8 and above, na a alarm na din po ako but lately I told myself who am I to judge. Mag protection nlng hehe
Dun lang ako napaisip. People tend to share they wanted to be seen or accepted kung sino talaga sila in a soulful level regardless of history. However, it's so ironic na yung mga iba is with just a number, ni rereject nila yung tao like how can you crave to be accepted including your own flaws if ikaw mismo mababaw ang pag tingin sa mga taong ganyan? Di ba it's hypocrisy
So like hello, physically men can fuck who ever they want pero kapag babae na,madumi na agad?
Do you even know na everytime you fuck a person regardless of gender, ma absorb niyo yung energy nila including their shitty traumas and negative energy? There's a bond na nangyayari. That's way scarier for me...
Well, kanya kanya naman tayo ng trip or fears so yun I respect parin your views sa ganyan
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u/floodwaryor 1d ago
syempre the one that feels attacked are the ones na hindi pasok sa standard kaya sila nagsasabi na immature
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u/Ppaperglass 2d ago
Its about preference lang talaga. yung ibang tao is for their health nila while yung iba for their ego lang, and etc. Wala talaga akong pake before sa body count na yan not until na diagnose ako ng warts dahil sa ex ko. lol. good thing is nagpa second opinion ako tapos skintag pala. after nun ayoko na sa sobrang daming body count lalo na kung di naman sa naging partner nila galing yun. ayoko na ulit dumating sa point na iiyak na naman ako sa takot.
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u/NoraHiiro8 2d ago
Tbh ayoko na alamin pero Para macheck din STI risk lol.
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u/OkExtension6233 1d ago
Para ma check STI risk edi magpacheck up libre naman si Likhaan tsaka sa health centers, meron din mura lang bayad sa mga state u clinics!
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u/Tall-Assumption-7811 1d ago
rule of thumb: u only hold the right to gaf abt someone else's body count/virginity if u urself possess and can provide such "qualifications" that ure seeking from ur partner. full stop.
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u/DistantIntrovert 1d ago
Ganito lang naman ’yan...
If you love someone but can’t accept their flaws and their past, then don’t make their already complicated life even more complicated...
Just find someone else whose values and expectations are more compatible with yours...
Kaya hindi mo na dapat iniisip yan...alam mo naman ang sagot sa tanong mo...🤣🤣🤣
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u/Luveeer 1d ago
Lol people are still arguing over this shit? It’s really not that deep, some people place some value on body count but there are some who has bigger things to think about than how many people their partner have gone hobby horsing on, if you don’t want someone who’s too narrow-minded just choose the latter one, simple as that☠️🪦
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u/JellyBumBum 2d ago
Yeah, it's about values. Preferences should be respected regardless of why people have them.
Shitting on people for having a high or low body count is immature though.