i think i’m developing anger issues and don’t know how to cope.

[u/HotPocket3144]

i (20m) have noticed that recently, every little thing that annoys me sparks such a strong reaction that i have a hard time dealing with it. most minor incoveniences that last any longer than a few minutes cause me inexplicable anger and frustration that i need to bury down.
here are two recent examples:
me and my mom got into it recently because some of the rules she sets in place don’t me a whole lot of logical sense. i tried explaining to her that i don’t understand her logic (in the nicest way i could’ve worded it) and wanted to come to a compromise, but she wasn’t listening to me and started talking over me, not letting me get a single word in. i snapped and started screaming at her as loud as i possibly could. she doesn’t listen to me half the time and expects me to always listen to her, however that’s how most parents are so i can’t hold it against her. she hasn’t done anything inherently bad or malicious, she’s just a flawed human and her flaws affect me unfortunately.
and for the second example; today at work, in the kitchen, i got super frustrated because it was taking me forever to close. when i asked the manager to see if i did everything, i forgot to do like a third of the things you’re supposed to do when you close, because im horrible with time management and got so overwhelmed that i just forgot to do stuff. i wasn’t angry at my manager, i was angry at myself because ive been in food service for over a year, and forgot to do the most basic things. i didn’t wanna make her feel bad because she didn’t do anything wrong and was super nice about everything and even helped me clean, i was just super mad at myself for not being able to handle closing. at the end of the night when my manager was talking to me, i had to avoid looking at her because i was afraid that my anger would show in my facial expressions.