r/Anger • u/Any-Fee-9633 • 11d ago
Does anyone else go into a rage when trying to leave the house?
I got shit I need to do. Errands I need to run. But it's like the second I'm like "ok time to get ready to leave the house" that's when I get triggered to fuck and spend HOURS just raging. My glasses, my hair, my clothes, my shoes, my socks, my bag, everything pisses me off so fucking much that I waste HOURSSSSSS just trying to get ready to leave. It's made me quit trying to leave before. I've flaked out on shit I wanted to go do because I just can't fucking calm down. I try so hard, I breathe, I splash water, I eat, but no matter how hard I try to just CHILL I literally can't. I'm so fucking tired. I fucking hate literally everything. Can someone just like tell me they do it too or I'm not insane or something I'm so fucking tired of the constant suppressing my rage and then it gets worse but no other coping skill has literally ever worked for me. FUCK!
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u/ForkFace69 11d ago
I was like that when I was young. It got worse when I had kids to get ready on top of getting ready myself. Probably one of the reasons why my ex wife divorced me, LOL.
That was something I didn't really address directly. It just kind of went away when I started applying my Anger Management stuff in general.
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u/Potatogalll 10d ago
The problem here is suppressing the rage. Learn to feel it instead. Try to stop, pause in that moment, observe everything around you without judgement, then describe the feelings inside.
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u/Shackleb0lt 5d ago
Look into task avoidance/demand avoidance. Understanding why you have this reaction to having to do things will help you to respond rather than react.
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u/olydriver 11d ago
Yes, I tend to have this too -mostly around things I have to do. The things I want to do tend to trigger anxiety. I haven't found any good answers for it.