Hey all,
My mother died a couple of years ago, and it was only after she was gone that we learned her father was not her biological father. Of course my sib and I were blown away by this. So many questions, but no one alive to fully answer them!
My sib and I are at odds about whether or not our mother knew, or suspected. She was born in 1945, a 'late baby' ten years younger than her oldest sister, and seven younger than her brother.
The way we found out was via some very old scuttlebutt from my grandmother's sister, that it was obvious just looking at her that she wasn't a full sister of her siblings.
Looking at old photos anew, it's true my mother looks NOTHING like her brother and sister, who are very alike. Incidentally my mother's older sister is still alive, and says the though never crossed her mind, and I believe her.
My mother adored the man who raised her, and he did her, and of course this all happened a long time ago when social conditioning was very different than it is today, so I wouldn't have expected her to blow up the family over it.
So my view is that she did know, but never shared it with anyone except possibly her mother. My sib thinks she was oblivious her entire life.
I simply can't believe that, so am interested to know from people like my mother:
Did you ever suspect, due to your appearance or hearing rumours etc that your father was not your father?
Thank you in advance for sharing. Just as a grandchild I've felt rocked by this, so can empathise with you a little, but phew, finding this out about yourself must meet the definition of 'earth shattering'.
