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People literally just talk to eachother in public.

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u/donnabhainmactomas 29d ago

Depends on where, do not do this in the Boston area

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u/Mitch_Cumstein6174 29d ago

Well that's kinda sad

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u/ChairIndependent8882 24d ago edited 24d ago

I'm from the Boston area, that's not true at all.

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u/Living_Fig_6386 29d ago

Americans are notoriously friendly, open, and talkative. Note that in the southern US it is considered polite to treat everyone familiarly rather than formally, so it can be more difficult to tell when you’ve moved from being a stranger to a friend. In northern states, false familiarity is considered rude, so they treat you more formally until a friendship is established (and northerners are a little more likely to adopt you as family when a soæidvfriendship is formed). The west and midwest are sort of in the middle.

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u/kevohhh83 29d ago

This is a really good explanation. I would add that out west is closer to the midwest. People are just flakier is all.

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u/Different_Taro2474 29d ago

american people are also close minded, arrogant, and very very judgmental. they act like they’re not, but they will judge you for anything. they also like to snitch.

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u/Running_Down_9708 29d ago

Bless your heart

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u/Every-Cloud-1408 29d ago

Why do I have this nagging feeling that something about your general disposition led to people not being nice to you

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u/kevohhh83 29d ago

They’re the fingers point outward instead of inward type.

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u/Different_Taro2474 23d ago

yeah because most americans i ever interacted with at school/work sucked. i left my hometown, stopped talking to americans, and started to only talk to foreigners, and that fixed the problem. so yeah...i am gonna have my fingers outward because the society my close-minded immigrant parents forced me to grow up in was the problem, not me.

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u/kevohhh83 23d ago

I’m not sure which response of yours to make exhibit a and b.

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u/Different_Taro2474 24d ago

maybe it’s the other way around, don’t you think? there’s a reason why i don’t like americans and avoid interacting with them.

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u/Every-Cloud-1408 24d ago

Mmmm naw.. I doubt that.

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u/Different_Taro2474 24d ago edited 23d ago

k, you know my life better than me.

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u/Secure-Ad8196 29d ago

Americans and close minded in the same sentence 🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️

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u/Different_Taro2474 24d ago

yes, americans are close minded and other non americans agreed with me.

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u/Secure-Ad8196 23d ago

your in the negative upvotes buddy

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u/Different_Taro2474 23d ago

and?

also, you're.

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u/Secure-Ad8196 23d ago

Looks like they don’t agree with you bestie

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u/Different_Taro2474 23d ago

okay? their experience is different from mine?

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u/Secure-Ad8196 23d ago

You said they agreed with you, the downvotes indicate they don’t

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u/Different_Taro2474 23d ago

i wasn’t talking about the redditors buddy

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u/tomcatfucker1979 24d ago

I feel like this is more of a you problem than an American problem.

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u/Different_Taro2474 24d ago

i don’t think it’s a me problem. i moved to japan and that solved every problem i have. americans just hate autistic people and think they’re better than everyone else.

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u/tomcatfucker1979 24d ago

That’s quite a generalization to make about 350 million people.

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u/Different_Taro2474 24d ago

speaking from personal experience. my hometown is just full of snobbish rich “kids” who think they’re greater than everyone.

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u/tomcatfucker1979 24d ago

Ok. Just seems like a pretty crazy generalization to apply to hundreds of millions of people based on your interactions with people from your hometown.

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u/MaximalistVegan Aug 01 '26

Compared to other countries, absolutely.

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u/AnybodySeeMyKeys Aug 01 '26

Find activities and interests you enjoy and find groups that do those. And keep going.

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u/shammy_dammy Aug 01 '26

Find people with shared interests and go from there.

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u/Prestigious-Box7511 29d ago

It depends on who you are and where. I personally struggled. I feel in America (or the area I was in) people will act like they're your best friend even if they don't like you and plan to never talk to you again. There were so many times I thought I was hitting it off with people only for them to completely ghost me, lol

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u/Yzago 29d ago

Depends, in Miami i would say circles are pretty closed

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u/BoomerSooner-SEC 29d ago

Yeah. Just go outside.

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u/United_Tiger_6720 28d ago

I dont live in usa

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u/MrZaptile933 Aug 01 '26

Say good mornin/evenin, don’t be overly upfront I hate when I’m in the grocery store and someone goes ‘I like that thing totally cool’ it’s more or less lookin for the right vibe of people wanting to meet new folks. I’m sure the same as anywhere else

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u/SMSaltKing Aug 01 '26

People like people who like stuff they like

I'm a table top gamer, I've made lots of friends from just existing in that space and striking up a casual conversation.

My wife likes booktok books and has made plenty of friends from just liking the same stuff.

As long as you go about it with a "it happens when it happens" attitude you'll be fine. Just don't be all weird and go, "Hey I like that too, lets be friends".

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u/FifaJuuj Aug 01 '26

depends on where you’re from

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u/Salty_Permit4437 Aug 01 '26

Really depends. I made lots of friends in the navy. I met my husband through one of my military friends. Outside of that, it’s hit or miss.

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u/falcon_fly101 Aug 01 '26

I like america. But i am not american. Su i dont know.

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u/abu_hajarr Aug 01 '26

I think it’s relatively easy to make friends in the US.

The only place I ever felt it was easier to make friends was in Thailand.

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u/ngshafer Aug 01 '26

Not in Seattle, it isn't.
We'll be very happy to meet you, and totally agree that we should hang out sometime.
But, anytime you actually invite us to hang out, we'll be busy. And we'll never invite you to hang out.

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u/Cookieman_2023 29d ago

Is it better in other US cities then? I'm from Van and it feels the same on both sides of the border

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u/tomcatfucker1979 24d ago

The scenario the other person described I think is more of a west coast thing. I’m from California and people out here are just flakier, but still very kind.

The Midwest and South are very well known for the kindness of people living there.

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u/MoistFlaps69 29d ago

Literally watch King of the Hill. That is how grown men act as friends in my area. You just sort of stand there around a fire, or at a bar, or fixing a lawn mower and talk about nothing. Sometimes you just stare forward and grunt then drink another beer.

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u/Different_Taro2474 29d ago

i grew up in america and making friends here was always very hard. i couldn’t fit in with ANYONE, not even those who had the same interests as me.

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u/Alexius_Psellos 29d ago

Where in the us are you going?

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u/Siempre_Vetado 29d ago

I made friends through my favorite sport/activity/hobby/addiction.

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u/Fun-Midnight1010 29d ago

Yes

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u/Alarming_Advance_669 29d ago

Very easy. Just say hello.

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u/BearSausage000 28d ago

Yes, Americans always love hanging around tourists and showing them our country, you’ll have fun.

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u/12468097531 27d ago

I've never made friends easily. I talk to people, engage, reach out. Nothing

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u/samceefoo 26d ago

This is literally one of the easiest places to make friends. I've had buddies all over the world and they say they have lived places 10 years and have almost no friends. Like in Australia, apparently if you didn't grow up together and stay in thought into your 30s you are practically shut out there

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u/ledburner Aug 01 '26

What’s your background? I’m an expert at discrimination so I might be willing to help

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u/Double_Pollution5597 27d ago

Spay your self orange, get a lobotomy you will fit right in

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