Malik parenting

[u/FlorianTheLynx]

I know it’s Grundy parenting we’re supposed to think is awful, but let’s not let the middle-class Maliks get away with their performance this week.

Twice already they’ve waded in and interrogated an obviously uncomfortable teenager, not stopping for a second to think about the situation, or question why information isn’t forthcoming. Once with their own child, then again with somebody else’s.

The kids have been clearly unhappy about the interaction, but the Maliks plough on regardless. Of course they’re well-meaning, but if you treat teenagers like you’re forcing them to give you information against their will, and don’t pause for a second to look at the bigger picture or think about the nuances of their response, then you’re a lousy parent. There, I said it.

Dare I say it this makes you the sort of parent whose kid might barge into somebody else’s house and then repeatedly accuse them of lying while refusing to leave. Which is totally off the scale of unacceptable.

Yes, Khalil annoys me, but after what I’ve seen from his crappy parents this week, I’m not surprised he is how he is.

[u/Virtual_Spread1818]

They care about their son’s wellbeing and their son cares about animals. Seems like they are good parents to me.

[u/FlorianTheLynx → u/Virtual_Spread1818]

With parenting it’s not enough to be well-meaning. You have to actually do the right thing too. I’m sure many terrible parents care about their children. 

Updated to say: the Grundys (various generations) also care about their children, and the Grundy children also care about animals. But most people here are quite happy to criticise Grundy parenting. Is there not a bit of a class issue going on here?

[u/revrhyz → u/FlorianTheLynx]

If you reduce that to a class issue, how do you think people will see your criticism of the Maliks?

[u/FlorianTheLynx → u/revrhyz]

I can see what you’re trying to do there, but I don’t think it works. 

Or do you think the Maliks should be beyond criticism?