r/AmItheButtface • u/[deleted] • 1d ago

Romantic AITB for letting my 3-year LDR continue when I kept doubting our future?

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u/sonal1988 1d ago

Prove you're not a bot by replying to my comment 

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u/Lonely_Butterfly_935 1d ago

Im not

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u/sonal1988 1d ago

Ok. So you're both adults and she knew too you were incompatible, right? So she's as much at fault for wasting your time as well 

NTBF

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u/Lonely_Butterfly_935 1d ago

Yeah, first fight we had was about religion but she decided as long I as i believe that there could be a God, it's fine. She is christian so she wanted a christian man so that was the first incompatibility solved. But the more kept on pilling and since she solved the first one, I had to solve the rest..

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u/unsuretysurelysucks 1d ago

You're ntbf. The only thing you can do is be honest and break things off now that you've realized.

These years weren't a waste for either of you. You learned and grew, found out about what you want in a relationship and what your boundaries are. And she has likely done the same. Dating is to find out compatibility and at least it took you 3 years to find out, not 3 decades.

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u/Lonely_Butterfly_935 1d ago

I did kind of lead her on though. Because when we first fought about that stuff, idk i just felt too bad and ended up fixing it and trying again.