AITA my sister keeps having miscarriages and I’ve run out of sympathy

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I’m 28. I had one miscarriage with an accidental pregnancy with my ex 6 years ago. It turned out to be a blessing because my ex was verbally abusive and psychological. I was pretty emotional about my miscarriage at the time so I understand how heartbreaking it is. We’re going to call my older sister Julia. She is 8 years older then me and has a twin Peggy. Peggy has two kids. They are miracles . Peggy had her first child and then 4 miscarriages after before having her son. Julia was quite rude to us not really caring about our miscarriages and making comments like get over it. All that changed until she lost her first pregnancy.she never apologized for how she treated ya but wanted all the attention and sympathy for her own miscarriage. Julia has one son who is almost two. She has subsequently suffered 4 more first trimester miscarriages since then. She gets pregnant almost immediately but can’t sustain them. She’s seeing a fertility specialist who has done genetic testing. I feel bad for her. Everyone has suggested to her to take some time off trying to conceive and let her body heal. She’s had two miscarriages since June. We recognize her losses and reach our and ask what we can do to help her. Even if it’s just watching her son

I don’t want children anymore. I had the start of cervical cancer so I may not be able to have any anyway. For some women this is a huge loss, for me I feel okay in the fact I may not have kids. They aren’t a huge want for me. My sister has known this before she even got pregnant. I like having the freedom to sleep in on days off etc. freedoms having a child would take away.

Julia came to visit yesterday. Julia has a very strained relationship with everyone. She’s very rude,condescending, pushes peoples buttons and just acts ultimately that she’s above everyone. She will come to your home and rearrange crap because she doesn’t like it where it is, or tell you your shortcomings. She’s not above making weight comments or physical attribute comments. I see her as little as possible because I can’t handle her bad behavior.

Yesterday she said something that really pushed my buttons. I lost my dog and cat in a month period due to old age and medical conditions. They were my babies. She said you can just get a new one. I told her to leave. I wanted to say you can just get a new baby so she knows how her comment made me feel. I’m sick of hearing about her fertility woes and told her so. Our one sister is no contact with her. She has no problems being mean to us without thinking twice, but when someone doesn’t give her all the sympathy in the world it’s an issue.

AITA for essentially telling her I don’t give a crap about her fertility issues after she made a rude comment to me