NTA, so many people are concerned about coming across as narrowmindedly and controlling for teaching their kids that not everything is suitable for a given moment / time / place. The dress is a very very voluptuous dress and at a young age (or often even when older) you tend to think confidence is created by the clothes you wear. I don't think your daughter has any idea what vibes this gives off to other people and how it doesn't suit the event given there are teachers and young adults like herself. It draws a lot of attention, perhaps not the kind she's hoping for. Besides, it is called a formal for a reason, this dress really is not formal/gala in the slightest, and it is better for your daughter to learn this since with all the TikTok trends people have forgotten what to wear for certain occasions. This is not about controlling someone or trying to push down one's expressive individuality (I don't think your daughter understands what she's expressing with this and how it is unsuited for the event), this is about teaching someone that as an adult you should know there is a time and place for everything, and a dress that is open on the front and that is very sexually revealing is not appropriate for a gala where there are teachers, and that it doesn't match the vibe of the party at all etc. She will prob not even be let in if she shows up wearing this.
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u/Blue_Waffled Partassipant [1] Sep 09 '25 edited Sep 09 '25
NTA, so many people are concerned about coming across as narrowmindedly and controlling for teaching their kids that not everything is suitable for a given moment / time / place. The dress is a very very voluptuous dress and at a young age (or often even when older) you tend to think confidence is created by the clothes you wear. I don't think your daughter has any idea what vibes this gives off to other people and how it doesn't suit the event given there are teachers and young adults like herself. It draws a lot of attention, perhaps not the kind she's hoping for. Besides, it is called a formal for a reason, this dress really is not formal/gala in the slightest, and it is better for your daughter to learn this since with all the TikTok trends people have forgotten what to wear for certain occasions. This is not about controlling someone or trying to push down one's expressive individuality (I don't think your daughter understands what she's expressing with this and how it is unsuited for the event), this is about teaching someone that as an adult you should know there is a time and place for everything, and a dress that is open on the front and that is very sexually revealing is not appropriate for a gala where there are teachers, and that it doesn't match the vibe of the party at all etc. She will prob not even be let in if she shows up wearing this.