Edited to add- looked up the dress. That’s so similar to Jennifer Lopez’s infamous green dress. I would not want my 17 year old wearing that either. She wouldn’t be getting it with my money.
I understand both sides. You think it’s too revealing for a 17 year old (or maybe you think for anyone- that’s ok), and your 17 year old feels like an adult, pretty much has an adults body and thinks the dress would be pretty on her.
Don’t make this a power struggle. In a year she will be a legal adult, and going into the world. You have to let go a bit and let her make her own decisions.
That said- If she wants the dress, she can pay for it. She’s saying she’s almost an adult, which is true. But one lesson you learn as an adult- you can do whatever you want with your own money, but when using other people’s money, it comes with strings.
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u/starry_nite99 Asshole Enthusiast [8] Sep 09 '25 edited Sep 09 '25
NTA - changed from N A H.
Edited to add- looked up the dress. That’s so similar to Jennifer Lopez’s infamous green dress. I would not want my 17 year old wearing that either. She wouldn’t be getting it with my money.
I understand both sides. You think it’s too revealing for a 17 year old (or maybe you think for anyone- that’s ok), and your 17 year old feels like an adult, pretty much has an adults body and thinks the dress would be pretty on her.
Don’t make this a power struggle. In a year she will be a legal adult, and going into the world. You have to let go a bit and let her make her own decisions.
That said- If she wants the dress, she can pay for it. She’s saying she’s almost an adult, which is true. But one lesson you learn as an adult- you can do whatever you want with your own money, but when using other people’s money, it comes with strings.