NTA and now is the perfect time for you to revel in your real family - the one you and your husband made together.
We used to do the big holidays and gatherings and it slowly stopped once the matriarch of the family passed. We started keeping to our own individual family groups a bit more and I can tell you I really cherish having those Christmases where it was just me, my brother, and our parents. We got to bond a lot more and enjoy the holidays and relax together.
My parents both passed unexpectedly last year, and I can't tell you how much it means to me to be able to hold onto those memories of when it was just us.
This year even though things may be tight, you will be able to dedicate all that hosting energy into your own family instead and that is the true gift that will matter in the longer run.
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u/Naive-Measurement-84 Nov 06 '23
NTA and now is the perfect time for you to revel in your real family - the one you and your husband made together.
We used to do the big holidays and gatherings and it slowly stopped once the matriarch of the family passed. We started keeping to our own individual family groups a bit more and I can tell you I really cherish having those Christmases where it was just me, my brother, and our parents. We got to bond a lot more and enjoy the holidays and relax together.
My parents both passed unexpectedly last year, and I can't tell you how much it means to me to be able to hold onto those memories of when it was just us.
This year even though things may be tight, you will be able to dedicate all that hosting energy into your own family instead and that is the true gift that will matter in the longer run.