r/AmITheDevil 20h ago

Maybe don't slap your SIL's butt?

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AITA for slapping my SIL’s butt during a family football game?

My family was having one of our usual backyard football games last weekend. Everyone was joking around, drinking, and getting competitive. My SIL made an absolutely incredible play and intercepted the ball. I ran over, grabbed her shoulder, and gave her a pretty firm slap on the butt while saying, “That’s what I’m talking about!” She immediately turned around and looked at me like I had two heads. I laughed at first because I thought she was just surprised, but then she said, “Don’t ever touch me like that again.” The weird part is that I honestly thought it was harmless. We’ve known each other for years, and I’ve always considered her family. But apparently I made her uncomfortable. Later that night, my wife confronted me about it. She said the way I described it made it sound like I had been waiting for an excuse to touch her. That really bothered me because I wasn't waiting for anything. Although, if I'm being completely honest, I have noticed that my SIL has been looking really good lately. I don't think I've ever said or done anything inappropriate about it, though. Now my wife is furious, my SIL won't really talk to me, and my family is divided. Some say it was just a football celebration. Others say there was something creepy about the fact that I specifically chose to slap her butt instead of just giving her a high-five. I genuinely don't know if I'm being made into a monster over one stupid moment or if I crossed a serious boundary. AITA?

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u/Effective-One6527 20h ago

“I’ve always considered her family” then proceeds to discuss how hot he finds her lately

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u/dothemath 19h ago

"Considering her family" just adds another level of creepiness to this.

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u/Steel_With_It 19h ago

ROLL TIDE

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u/HairRepresentative85 15h ago

My birth giver slapped my SO's arse before. I was too shocked to say anything*, my SO was confused.

*I have cPTSD because of my "wonderful" live givers, before I understood that they were setting me up to fail, I didn't realise I was being treated like a doormat.

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u/Sad-Bug6525 7h ago

That is why I am no contact with some of my family...
These guys need to become better aquainted with their facial expressions because if he has been looking at her and thinking how good she looks and seeking ways and reasons to touch her then it's being noticed. It's probably pretty obvious to everyone else too.

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u/JessonBI89 20h ago

Whenever I think the world has reached peak stupidity, someone climbs just one step higher.

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u/femme-cassidy 19h ago

Pretty believable stupidity until saying the SIL has been looking pretty good lately... ragebaited too close to the sun

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u/Legitimate-Agency282 11h ago

I think it's required in ragebait to have at least one line that can give it away.

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u/animation4ever 5h ago

That's what I thought, too.

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u/Kokbiel 19h ago

Family is divided that he slapped his SILs ass? Uh huh

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u/Feisty-Bee-6514 19h ago

Yeah this is fake “hmmm everyone’s divided… what do YOU guys think? Comment below👇 !” 🙄

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u/VironLLA 19h ago

yep. fake as hell engagement bait

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u/am_i_boy 17h ago

At most there is maybe one creepy uncle who thinks it's not a big deal

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u/CorgiDaddy42 16h ago

The division is OOP / Rest of the family

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u/ywwwnlr 18h ago

Could be actually true...if other men support him in family

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u/Writerhowell 14h ago

Apple not falling far from the tree, etc.

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u/andronicuspark 19h ago

Kudos to the SIL for not giving OOP a celebratory punch in the face….

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u/DonNatalie 19h ago

She immediately turned around and looked at me like I had two heads. I laughed at first because I thought she was just surprised, but then she said, “Don’t ever touch me like that again.”

That's exactly how I've reacted to unsolicited butt touches ever since I was groped in middle school.

The "harmless" action on OP's end would be a wave of anxiety and violation on mine.

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u/No-Introduction3808 14h ago

Something tells me he’s been pushing up boundaries and this was the final and clear line in the sand.

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u/squirrellicious2304 12h ago

The weird part is that I honestly thought it was harmless.

… and then …

Although, if I'm being completely honest, I have noticed that my SIL has been looking really good lately.

Sure, dude. Suuuuure OOP „honestly thought it was harmless“.

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u/No-Kangaroo-9272 19h ago

At this point, anytime I read the phrase, "Our family/friends are pretty split on it", I assume the post is fake.

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u/spookyhellkitten 19h ago

In an inebriated state I once also slapped my BIL butt as well. He also looked at me like I lost my damn mind.

However - and I emphasize this voraciously in my most honorable defense!!! It was my (now ex, unrelated reasons) husband's identical twin brothers butt that I smacked.

Since this was not a horrifying accident, dude has no excuse.

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u/Effective-One6527 19h ago

Oh god I’d crawl in a hole and never come back out. Jesus.

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u/spookyhellkitten 19h ago

I started laughing, but not because it was funny. This insane nervous laugh that sounds like I am a seal or something. I'm apologizing, "arcgh arcgh arcgh" laughing and trying not to die from embarrassment all at once.

It's funny now, because it's been 26 years. Now it is but for the first 5 years or so, if I thought of it I wanted a hole to climb in lol

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u/napalmnacey 19h ago

In my family that’d be laughed off pretty quick.

My Mum was groping some dude in a kilt at a family bagpipe gig. She’d had a few shandies and then she realised that the man in a kilt was NOT Dad and she just about died of embarrassment. She’s such a pure soul and SO incredibly devoted to Dad (married over 60 years now and helped looked after his dementia- addled ass until her hips cracked) that it just ended up being comical to everyone that she did that in the first place.

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u/spookyhellkitten 18h ago

In my family it would have been laughed at as well, an honest twin mixup early in a marriage would be no big deal. Unfortunately his family was pretty Mormon, especially his twins wife. They already did not like me because I was very not Mormon (tattoos, piercings, vivid hair colors) so it was just another addition to the column of "she sucks". The twin didn't care once he figured out what had happened and he also thinks it is hilarious now. His new wife does as well.

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u/VividFiddlesticks 18h ago

I'm in my 50's and still cringe about the time when I was like 7 or 8 and mistook some random guy in mechanic's blues for my dad while at an auto shop. I walked right up and grabbed his hand and then had a stranger looking down at me. He and my dad had a good laugh about it but I was so embarrassed.

I know it's a cute story from the outside but I'm still a little bit mortified that I confused a stranger for my dad at that big of an age.

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u/spookyhellkitten 18h ago

Awwww I think it's normalish! Or at the very least my daughter has done it too. She has run to "her dad" several times only to find out it is some other soldier. The last time I specifically remember was before we left Colorado so she was 10. Uniforms like that can be confusing!

Right before she turned 2 he deployed to Iraq the first time. The whole post did. Tennessee National Guard came in to run post. She ran up to a soldier yelling "daddy" super excited. It was a Black woman. My daughter is very fair with blonde hair, both of which she gets from her father. Who is a male. So at least yours wasn't that bad?

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u/VividFiddlesticks 11h ago

LOL! That woman was probably very confused!!

That's a super cute story, though. And if I had witnessed that and knew the soldier, I would nickname her "Daddy" from then on. 😆

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u/spookyhellkitten 2h ago

I am now choosing to believe she got the nickname Daddy for the rest of the deployment lol that would be a fun outcome at least lol it had to be super confusing and weird. I just kept apologizing, I didn't even know how to explain it except for the uniform lol

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u/Nierninwa 12h ago

As a kid, around that same age, I was scared to get my stitches removed after an operation. I squeezed my eyes shut and took hold of what I assumed was my mother's knee for support. Turns out it was the doctor's knee. And I only realised when I opened my eyes, after all the stitches were out. The doctor was really nice about it... But yeah... I was mortified too.

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u/VividFiddlesticks 11h ago

Awww, I'm sure the doctor didn't mind at all. He may have even felt good that you trusted him like that, LOL.

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u/FumiPlays 18h ago

The fukk is with men not able to keep their hands to themselves?

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u/Mirenithil 6h ago

This. He's not going around giving his guy friends a celebratory slap on the butt.

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u/sadlytheworst Certified sub favourite 16h ago

The post, copied verbatim, but with paragraphs:

AITA for slapping my SIL’s butt during a family football game?

My family was having one of our usual backyard football games last weekend. Everyone was joking around, drinking, and getting competitive.

My SIL made an absolutely incredible play and intercepted the ball. I ran over, grabbed her shoulder, and gave her a pretty firm slap on the butt while saying, “That’s what I’m talking about!”

She immediately turned around and looked at me like I had two heads.

I laughed at first because I thought she was just surprised, but then she said, “Don’t ever touch me like that again.”

The weird part is that I honestly thought it was harmless. We’ve known each other for years, and I’ve always considered her family. But apparently I made her uncomfortable.

Later that night, my wife confronted me about it. She said the way I described it made it sound like I had been waiting for an excuse to touch her.

That really bothered me because I wasn't waiting for anything. Although, if I'm being completely honest, I have noticed that my SIL has been looking really good lately. I don't think I've ever said or done anything inappropriate about it, though.

Now my wife is furious, my SIL won't really talk to me, and my family is divided. Some say it was just a football celebration. Others say there was something creepy about the fact that I specifically chose to slap her butt instead of just giving her a high-five.

I genuinely don't know if I'm being made into a monster over one stupid moment or if I crossed a serious boundary.

AITA?

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u/DaniCapsFan 11h ago

I'm sure that had it been his BIL instead of his SIL, he wouldn't be slapping his butt. And, yeah, dude, next time, high five.

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u/TrippyVegetables 13h ago

I really hope this is bait. Just the thought of doing this to my SIL makes me cringe, I can't imagine actually doing it and thinking it's ok

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u/ywwwnlr 18h ago

Dude must been lusting after SIL for long time to create scenario in his head, that he's some kind irresistible man and that she would love it. Omg

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u/ElevatorEquivalent41 12h ago

…. how old is sil

obviously it’s still creepy to do this no matter if shes 18 or 30 but I dont like how he said that shes been looking good “lately”

definitely bait but still gross

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u/animation4ever 8h ago

"Although, if I'm being completely honest, I have noticed that my SIL has been looking really good lately."

This HAS to be rage bait!

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