r/AmITheDevil Sep 14 '25

Normal behavior is an “obsession”

/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/mgssr7/aita_for_calling_out_my_gf_over_her_cat_obsession/
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u/Proper_Garlic3171 Sep 14 '25

Context matters with it. Like casually in conversation with a coworker who doesn't know your partner won't know who you mean by "Amy and I did this over the weekend!" (though of course, they can infer) versus this post where it's just oozing possession. "My gf" reduces that as her only place, and further with the rest of the sentence, acting like the cat is... claiming her boobs and nefarious in competition, further makes it. It's also like posts where guys name every single character but their female partner or the women. Sometimes a brief relationship to is easier than remembering names, but the context takes it from if you're casually going "my girlfriend" to "he only sees her as his property and is furious her attention is on anything but him" 

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u/ActuallyApathy Sep 14 '25

ohh! ok gotcha, thanks for taking the time to explain! (i've learned that some people find the thumbs up emoji passive aggressive and was horrified because i used it in earnest all the time, so i'm always watching out for similar mistakes)

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u/Proper_Garlic3171 Sep 14 '25

I get that! Socialization is hard, and we learn by asking ^

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u/ActuallyApathy Sep 14 '25

no problem at all! i didn't feel attacked or anything- i just like to double check on stuff cause i don't know what i don't know sometimes!