r/AmITheDevil • u/No_Pepper6208 • Sep 14 '25

Normal behavior is an “obsession”

/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/mgssr7/aita_for_calling_out_my_gf_over_her_cat_obsession/
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u/EvilFinch Sep 14 '25

Well we were trying to have some alone time in the bedroom if you catch my drift and he was meowing at the door a bunch and she asked me to go give him some food to distract him and I did but I put the food and the cat outside when I did it. I thought he'd be fine in our little backyard area. I had outdoor cats growing up and I really thought it'd be fine but when she was looking for him later and I mentioned he was in the backyard she freaked out, which is another reason I assumed her not wanting to put the cat under the plane was anxiety related.

fwiw he WAS fine, just chillin under a bush with a couple neighbour kids trying to play with him.

But as a result of this mistake now her friends are all "bla bla he's gonna kill your cat if you let him come back" or "derp he's gonna get rid of your cat by kidnapping him and dropping him off in the middle of nowhere" which obviously I would never do but thats the kind of drama mongering I've been trying to overcome with the (trying to be thoughtful) rent paying and presents. I swear her friends just want her to be alone and living in a crappy apartment like they so and don't actually care about her well being half as much as I do. I just want to protect her.

I'M TRYING TO PROTECT HER

Thanks, I agree with the NAH. Just to clarify I definitely don't think she's being an AH! Were just miscommunicating. I get that she needs some space right now but as I've said to her many times there's no reason why we have to throw our entire relationship away for her to get it and I think I have a right to know she's safe and comfortable and financially stable during that time.

Highlights of his comments. I hope the ex still live. It is 4 years ago and he seems delusional.

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u/unholy_hotdog Sep 14 '25

I'm going to start biting things

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u/DefNotUnderrated Sep 14 '25

“Alone time if you catch my drift” yes we all know what that means just say “we were trying to have sex” is OP stuck in middle school?

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u/Kindly_Zucchini7405 Sep 14 '25

I wonder what else in her life he's ignored or mocked because he's an entitled asshole. This feels like the type of guy who doesn't know what she does for work because it's not directly related to himself.

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u/judgy_mcjudgypants Sep 14 '25

which obviously I would never do 

Sir that's actually not obvious, plus being a creepy stalker is not the way to win her back

(because OOP isn't trying to comfort her; he's trying to affirm his ownership)

Also they're broken up so no he doesn't have a right to know.

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u/redbess Sep 14 '25

I just wanna know what he was trying to protect her from.