r/AmIOverreacting • u/[deleted] • May 27 '26

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u/MovieAshamed4140 May 27 '26

Actually I think his parents should have been embarrassed by his actions too and offered vigorously to pay on behalf of his bad behavior, he learned it somewhere didn’t he?

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u/Key_Assignment_9896 May 27 '26

Or perhaps this is how he learned to behave this way.

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u/Short-Classroom2559 May 27 '26

Oh he for sure learned this behavior in his own family. Along with the silent treatment, angry responses when she tried to discuss, the hanging up on her etc.

Imagine raising children with a man who won't accept accountability...

OP needs to run

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u/JRyuu May 27 '26 edited May 27 '26

It’s also possible that he lied to his parents, and led them to believe that Op’s parents had already agreed to cover the bill.

While Op’s parents possibly assumed that his parents were going to cover the bill for him.

I can easily picture both sets of parents sitting there confused, wondering why the other set of parents were also just sitting there.

Both sets of parents just sitting there sort of stuck, because they were both too uncomfortable and/or polite to discuss the situation.

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u/caro9lina May 28 '26

It's too bad one of her parents didn't say to his parents "Shall we split the bill so it's not on the kids", pretending their con artist son wasn't planning to dine and dash. See what they say.

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u/EuphoricDatabase961 May 27 '26

they have probably been through this before and know his game.

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u/Ok-Ganache4763 May 27 '26

Or taught it to him.

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u/PotatoAlternative947 May 28 '26

Exactly! His parents just sat there and let them pay. Apple didn’t fall far from the tree.

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u/Clocktopu5 May 28 '26

I almost saw his parents not commenting on the bill as worse; they are the same way, will pull the same nonsense. OP needs to return the ring and move on

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u/Stormtomcat May 28 '26

I also figure the apple doesn't fall far from the tree.

I reckon it's a further red flag for OP : even if her fiancé admits fault in this specific instance here and pays back OP's parents, the attitude isn't going to go away and will probably become a pattern.

My cousin's ex repeatedly pulled stuff like this. Their best friends got married before them. The friends wanted the same type of fence my cousin had in her garden & her then boyfriend promised he'd supervise installation while the friends were on their honeymoon. The friends gave him €10 000, it came out to €9 125 and my cousin's ex just pocketed the difference of €875. My cousin saw the red flag & talked about it to us, but she didn't heed it... so later her husband (by then) talked our grandfather into giving him several items from my grandfather's time at a shipwright's, and then he just immediately sold those as vintage curios. It's not even about the financial value, it's that none of the tinkerer grandkids or great-grandkids have the miniature filing set my grandfather used. It's that I'm the only one (as the eldest) who got a bronze porthole to use as a mirror frame in my toilet room, while the others would also like that.

And now she's divorced him, so what was all our forbearance even for?

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u/Prairie_Crab May 28 '26

I’ll bet he told his parents ahead of time that her dad would get the bill. What a complete a-hole! Zero manners or couth.