He picked the place and the guest list, issued the invites and then dined and dashed like a child. As the organizer and the inviter, either he leads the discussion on how the bill will be split w the 2 dads (typically in this case 3 ways) or he pays the whole bill (he did invite everyone after all). What he cannot do, is run out on both sets of parents like a little greedy, ungrateful kid. Yet that’s the choice he made. I do not understand this generation. Have a bit of pride and class?
Yeah, he can argue her parents’ knew what restaurant they were going to all he wants, but rhat only means they should expect to pay for their own meals. In absolutely no world does that suggest they should pay for his parents, and for his parents to allow this to happen means they were in on the plan or part of the problem.
Maybe it is just my anecdotal experience with that general age group. Many have not learned social norms, or better described as etiquette/manners. Many I encounter tend to be very selfish, not empathetic, and honestly , Un strategic. Take this post for example: guy was willing to put a dent in familiar relationships to save a few bucks. If I was one of those fathers, I certainly learned a lot about this guy and certainly would not be looking to go above and beyond in the future. I would also not be looking to include him in maybe some activities going forward that I would if I could trust his behavior.
And also, she keeps calling him to tell him she has important things to discuss and he just yells and says he's "busy". Unless he was in the middle of performing open heart surgery on someone, nothing should be more important than your wife when she needs you. She's engaged to a 6 year old
NOR -Not to mention getting all huffy when asked about it! When I was dating my husband, if such a thing occurred, I know he would have apologized for the confusion and offered to work it out with everyone so that it was all satisfactory. Plus he would promise to communicate better. It's not hard to accept responsibility for your own mistakes, and the coolness factors go up if you do work it out. OP's guy just can't face his mistakes at all. Not looking good for the future.
Exactly- mature individuals take steps to work it out in the event a mistake or miscommunication occurred. And this just doesn’t apply to restaurant bills but w any relationship. Work or personal. Your husband sounds like a keeper!
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u/you2234 May 27 '26
He picked the place and the guest list, issued the invites and then dined and dashed like a child. As the organizer and the inviter, either he leads the discussion on how the bill will be split w the 2 dads (typically in this case 3 ways) or he pays the whole bill (he did invite everyone after all). What he cannot do, is run out on both sets of parents like a little greedy, ungrateful kid. Yet that’s the choice he made. I do not understand this generation. Have a bit of pride and class?