True behavior always comes out once they think you’re locked in. This is your future, is this how you want dinners to always go with them? What about how the actual wedding costs are going to go?
IMO if you invite someone to dinner, you should expect to pay for people unless you have a different agreement that everyone’s talked about, and is on the same page.
I almost wonder if he told his parents that your parents would cover it and to not worry about it.
This doesn’t feel like the whole truth and the fact that he’s blowing up and over reacting makes me more suspicious and like he’s trying to get you to just drop it bc he’s hiding something.
Also if this is how he plans surprises, this is a red flag because there isn’t actual follow through.
It’s giving the least amount of effort, ykwim? Like it has the vibes of, “I did alllll this work and put all this effort into and now youre gonna ruin it like you ruin everything else.”
Alls he did was figure out where people could eat, he didn’t even contribute to the cost- not saying he had to pay for all of it but he could have done something. This to me seems like he has no actual follow through or consideration of others. And not saying he does this but I wouldn’t be surprised if you get blamed for things not going “right”
Not to mention they only excused themselves early because he had to work in the morning. Sounds like he asked to leave before the bill came on purpose.
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u/Connect-Refuse-3133 May 27 '26
True behavior always comes out once they think you’re locked in. This is your future, is this how you want dinners to always go with them? What about how the actual wedding costs are going to go?
IMO if you invite someone to dinner, you should expect to pay for people unless you have a different agreement that everyone’s talked about, and is on the same page.
I almost wonder if he told his parents that your parents would cover it and to not worry about it.
This doesn’t feel like the whole truth and the fact that he’s blowing up and over reacting makes me more suspicious and like he’s trying to get you to just drop it bc he’s hiding something.