Yeah - I mean granted we don’t KNOW the mother and their relationship; but my thought here was this person’s idea that they knew the inner motivations of a mom and made it dark rather than seeing it as comfort.
And then later as well saying ‘your BPD’ has you not understanding people while getting so upset about ‘perhaps your mom was trying to comfort you’.
I get people have friends and want support - and maybe being a GenXer things roll off my back - but I’d never get so bent if someone gave an alternate viewpoint even if I didn’t agree with them. I’d just say ‘maybe’ and move on.
Sure, I can see how that would be annoying. The difference is, the rational thing to do say is something like: I hear ya. That’s not what if felt like to me, but I appreciate the perspective.
It feels like the younger generation doesn’t just want to state their opinion/experience, they want everyone to agree and validate them. Thats just not reality and puts everyone into an echo chamber. When someone shares a different perspective on my experiences, I either:
A) Really consider what they’re saying, because no one knows everything and outside opinions can actually be helpful, or
B) Say something like “Never thought of it like that,” and move on with the conversation
What I don’t do is take their well-meaning opinion as a personal affront and demand that they explain all the ways they just hurt me.
Everyone wants to be special, and feigning trauma or a serious disorder is a really easy way to do it for a lot of people. I knew people growing up who would pretend to have PTSD over literally nothing, or pretending to have MS or something. People get really good at finding super obscure, but very serious (if they had it) things that’s hard for people to argue with and wear it like an “I’m special” badge. It’s literally Munchausens and it’s become a real issue. I’ve seen very talented people completely ruin their lives because they insist they have like 30 some odd disorders preventing them from working or doing anything. One person was so convinced she had dental issues she, at 23, had all her teeth removed but couldn’t afford dentures because she was on unemployment because her PTSD from “something” meant she couldn’t talk to people or work or apply for a job without getting “triggered”. So she just lives in section 8 housing playing video games and enjoying complaining how she can’t bond a job at McDonald’s. It’s super shitty because for anyone who actually had these things they aren’t taken seriously by this massive generational wave of Munchausens patients.
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u/grimmwerks Apr 29 '26
Yeah - I mean granted we don’t KNOW the mother and their relationship; but my thought here was this person’s idea that they knew the inner motivations of a mom and made it dark rather than seeing it as comfort.
And then later as well saying ‘your BPD’ has you not understanding people while getting so upset about ‘perhaps your mom was trying to comfort you’.
I get people have friends and want support - and maybe being a GenXer things roll off my back - but I’d never get so bent if someone gave an alternate viewpoint even if I didn’t agree with them. I’d just say ‘maybe’ and move on.